How would you ask for monetary only gifts at a baby shower?

On an invitation to a baby shower if the Mommy-to-be only wants money as a gift, how would she word it without being rude?

How would you ask for monetary only gifts at a baby shower?
You don't.





A baby shower is to celebrate the baby's impending arrival. Gifts are gifts... not cash cover charges at the door. If someone can only afford $5, they hunt for something on sale that is worth more.





I think she should tell close family and friends her preferance... but she should also register at a store like babies r us or target or walmart or something like that for things that she does want/need specifically and make sure to note where she is registered (some places give you a little card to put in the invitation).





Maybe the reason you can't think of a way of wording it with out being rude is because the idea itself is rude.
Reply:No matter how you word that it would sound rude. Perhaps tell the hostess that you have set up a college fund account and provide deposit slips.
Reply:It's rude to ask for money only. It makes you look like you're money-grubbing. You can write "cash only" only the invitations, but don't expect it to be well received by everyone. In fact, some people might be insulted at being viewed as an ATM and not show up at all. The only other way around this is to register for the items you really want and need or to return the items you get for cash from the store.
Reply:on the invites ask for no gifts but mention that there will be a wishing well if anyone would like to make a moentary donation, you will find most ppl will give you money
Reply:instead why not make a registry, or just return stuff you get most places will give you store credit.
Reply:What about having a gift-card shower? You can't really ask for money on an invitation, but if ppl ask you what the mommy-to-be really wants or needs tell them money! We wanted gift cards to Target and Babies R Us, which were great. We had them until my son was 5 months old. That way we only used the money on important items, mostly for the baby.
Reply:Personally, I think it would be "tacky" to ask your guests for money. They should be allowed to pick whatever they choose as a shower gift. They want to find things for the baby--not to make a house payment for the dad and mom.
Reply:Unfortunately, I think a baby shower isn't the right venue to suggest a "money only" gift. Weddings are a different matter, but you're choosing to celebrate the birth of a baby with a baby shower and people are coming to help you celebrate so unfortunately it's not up to you what they choose to bring. Rather than money, if there is something big you would like suggest that a group of friends pitch in to buy it, if they are stuck for something to bring. I agree with a lot of the others, in this case, you would be considered rude to ask for money. Family might help out, but asking friends is a bit much.
Reply:i think that is just rude why even have a baby shower then....
Reply:Tell them that the mother already has everything that the baby needs but that money would be appreciated for needs in the future, or for her college fund or something to that extent. chances are though she is going to get gifts anyway. that's just the way things usually work out.
Reply:I think this is very tacky. The point of a baby shower is for the mom to get many of the things she needs for the new baby. Thats why stores have registry's...so that the mom gets what she wants for her new baby. If this mom doesn't need anything new for the baby and just wants money to set up an account then she doesn't need a baby shower. I would be really offended if I got an invitation that said cash or monetary gifts only!
Reply:To ask for gifts at all is rude. Do NOT do it.
Reply:Its poor etiquette to ask for money on an invitation. Did you know that its even poor etiquette to put the "registered at" slip in the invite? Things like these are suppose to be passed around by word of mouth, not written. If someone asks what you want or need for the baby, the hostess and/or your immediate family should inform them of your wishes. Other than that, be thankful for what people offer.





On a side note, many people WILL NOT give cash only because its viewed as impersonal and tacky.
Reply:You don't. it IS rude period.
Reply:why doesn't she just charge an admission to the shower? that way she'll get money and gifts.


sorry- just being sarcastic. there is no good way to word it- that is rude.
Reply:dont put a regisrty in the invitation. you probably will get more things if you do make a regisrty though, you will be suprised how much people will buy for chidren, they probably wont give as much money
Reply:No way to do it without being tacky. But tell your mom, sisters, close friends, etc, that you would prefer cash. They can spread the word.
Reply:Most people want to buy a gift for a baby shower. Its kinda the fun part. What is the reason you want only cash? As long as you register your guests will most likely buy you what you want, so whats the problem?
Reply:Say something like "we would like to pick things out for baby ourselves, so monetary gifts would be ideal"
Reply:Cash only

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