Do I spend the same amount of money on all my kids gifts?

I have 2 daughters on their own both in relationships. I have a 17 yr old and an 8 yr old still @ home. All of my kids are girls. We do not have a close extended family so there wont be gifts from grandparents or aunts and uncles ect. Oldest daughter is in Iraq in the Army. I have always worked hard to make Christmas special for them due to the lack of extended family.

Do I spend the same amount of money on all my kids gifts?
THE OLDER ONE COULD GET SOMETHING MORE EXPENSIVE I THINK!
Reply:im my opinion i guess u should spend the same amount of money on both of ur 2 lil daughters..since if any1 of them concluded that she got a cheaper gift from her sis, she would envy her ,therefore u could bring jealousy between both.
Reply:It really depends on the level of maturity of your girls. For you daughter, in Iraq, she might be just ex static if you sent some type of care package with lots of small, inexpensive gifts for her and her unit to share(fun stuff), while your girls at home may have specific needs.





If your girls are immature, or greedy (please don't take that wrong, please), then try to stick close to the same quality, not necessarily dollar amount. And, don't tell them what you spent.





I have a very dear girlfriend that has has a sister and a sister-in-law, all three between 27 and 32 yrs old. They throw the most horrible tantrums if they find out that ones gift cost more than the others'. Who knows why. Huge competition. She has gone as far as to deny contact between her children and mother-in-law when she has found out that the woman spent more money on her other two grandchildren. The parents of the other two do not provide for their own, so grandma picks up the slack.





Only go the equal monetary route if the girls can't handle it. And, if you are a savvy shopper, you know that you might get the $80 sweater for $20, then you spend a week trying to spend $60 more, which could end up looking like one got more stuff. Yikes.





Good luck with it, it can get ugly. Good luck!!!!
Reply:Well, I have 4 adult sons, 1 -10 yr old son. My husband has 2 adult children %26amp; 2 kids ages 11 %26amp; 9. We do try to stick to somewhere around the same dollar amount. But if one of the kids wants something a bit more pricey then they just get less packages to open. Keeping the dollar amount the same is just easier to remember %26amp; easier on the pocket book. Good luck %26amp; thank you to you %26amp; your daughter. I have a son Army National Guard %26amp; 1 Marine. Neither of them are over there yet. I'm keeping my fingers crossed-God Bless!
Reply:Same amount on each. I was the youngest and my grandfather would send us money. My sister was 5 years older and got double what I got. Even when I was 15 and she was 20 and when I was 20 and she was 25. It really hurt my feelings.