Is ok to ask for money for the honeymoon instead of wedding gifts?

I am planning my 2nd wedding. My fiance' and I both have established households and already will have 2 of everything. We would really like to take a nice honeymoon and wondered about putting on the invitation (which I am making myself) that in lieu of gifts to contribute to the honeymoon fund. Does that sound too tacky? Any other suggestions on how to word it?


Thanks,

Is ok to ask for money for the honeymoon instead of wedding gifts?
No, I'm afraid not. You can have your mom or family members subtly hint to guests that money is your preference, but by inviting people to your wedding, you're inviting them to share in your happiness in whatever way they want, which means they can give whatever gift they want. One way to help encourage money, though, is not to register at many places or for very many things. That way when they ask your family members about gifts, it gives them a chance to say, "well, what they really want is money for their honeymoon." You might be excited to know that many guests give money anyway. . . my husband and I got over $3,000 in cash that we took on our honeymoon.
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Reply:NO, of course it is NOT okay to ask for money for the honeymoon, or for anything else! You and your bf have to budget for the honeymoon yourselves, if you can't afford where you want to go, you change your plans, or just don't go right after the wedding. It is surely NOT the guests' responsibility to pay for that for you, nor should you even think of asking such a thing!!!


Especially with a second wedding....


Guests are not required to get a wedding gift, however most do. They would get something they choose, that they deem suitable for the couple. It's not their 'fault' that the two of you have established households already -- usually the reason for shower and wedding gifts is to help the couple get started in their new home together. Either you just graciously accept whatever people will chose to get for you, or you could always politely state "No gifts, please." - NOT be selfish and greedy and ask for money instead.
Reply:That is tacky and rude. You should NOT mention gifts in your invitation at all.





Gift suggestions of any kind should be spread by word of mouth only.
Reply:No it's not okay. You can do this with say immediate family but not anyone else.
Reply:Very tacky. Im getting married in July (2nd marriage for both of us too) and though I couldnt agree with you more (it is what we want to) To imply that a gift is expected cash or otherwise is in bad form no matter what # wedding your on.
Reply:I'm not Dear Abby or anything but I'm telling you that is very tacky. I would be insulted if I received an invitation like that.


First of all if you are invited to a wedding you are under no obligation to bring anything at all. But if you are bringing a gift it is inappropriate for you to request of your guests to bring cash only.
Reply:you can have your second wedding as big as you want. dont listen to that other person. It is tacky to ask for monetary gifts only but if your invitations dont have a registry assignment attached to it your guests wont have any other choice but to give you money. have a big beautiful wedding. I hope your big day is wonderful as is your honeymoon.
Reply:Tacky, tacky, tacky! Begging for money is NEVER okay! You're not supposed to ask for gifts at all, let alone tell them you want money instead.


Nobody has to buy a gift, especially for a 2nd wedding. If they choose to, say thank you, graciously, no matter what the gift might be.


If you told me to give you money, I'd either give you a toaster or some towels, or would not even attend, and forget any gift I might have been considering.
Reply:Wedding guests are offended and insulted when a Bride and Groom put that type of information on a wedding invitation, it is inappropriate and does not belong there.





Consider a "honeymoon" registry which is similiar to a gift registry or gift list. Have your parents and wedding party members pass that information "by word of mouth" to the invited guests.





Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Reply:One never, ever mentions gifts in a wedding invitation. The reason is that gifts are optional. Yes, pretty much everyone will want to give you something, but they are not obliged to give you anything. Yes, you'd like to get what you'd like to get, but you are not allowed to dictate what form the gift will take.





The one thing you can do is pass the word to everyone in the wedding party and both immediate families that you'd prefer monetary gifts. Then people can ask whoever they know best among the families or wedding party and get the word from them. Anyone who consults with those in the know will be given the word on what you'd like. Anyone who doesn't consult them will be deciding completely on their own.





No matter what you ask for, there will always be someone who doesn't follow the register or send the hoped-for check. Yes, you must be gracious about whatever is given you. It's a gift. It's a tangible expression of love and support. Accept it with a smile and sincere expression of gratitude.
Reply:That is tacky, you shouldn't be having a big 2nd wedding, it should be small and private, with no gifts. sell his stuff and go on your honeymoon with that.
Reply:YES! Any mention of gifts on the invitation period is tacky. It is even more offensive when you are dictating what type of gift your guests are "allowed" to give you. Gifts are optional. It makes it look like a gift is required for their prescence.





Information about where you are registered or prefrences like wanted cash for a honeymoon instead of boxed gifts should only be spread through word of mouth. Period. You can tell your parents and members of the bridal party and when somebody asks what to get you or where you are registered thats when they are told you would prefer money for a honeymoon.





For later posters who I know will say "but so and so did it and they had the cutest poem!". I see people pick their noses in public too. Does that make it any less disgusting and mean we should all start doing it?
Reply:Absolutely do not put wording on your invitation-as practical as it is, people will consider this very tacky. Here is what you do-tell everyone verbally about this website-


www.honeyfund.com. This site allows your guests to contribute to your honeymoon. Tell your family and friends that this is where you are registered, and they will be happy to contribute.
Reply:You can sign up for travel registries online or at some travel agencies.
Reply:It is ALWAYS tacky to ask for money, even more so on the invitation! People always ask friends and family of the bride and groom where they are registered, so make a honeymoon registry instead and have your friends and family spread the word. Regardless, you will still get some gifts, some people just don't follow registries, but that'll at least help.
Reply:Tacky to say :toward hoenymoon fund" but asking for money is acceptable. Ive been to several weddings where the couple was moving out of town so it was just not practical to give gifts. The wording they used was something like "You're presence is the greatest gift we could ask for but if you choose to bring along a small gift, special circumstances allow for....."
Reply:Hi, My Fiancee and I are doing the same thing this summer and is what I did for the invitations is just include a seperate piece of paper stating the address and explaining the details and also a little paragraph explaining that we are having a wishing well wedding. I found my little paragraph online. just type in "wishing well wedding verse" you will be able to find one that suits you. Some are really quite cute. Congratulations to you both! All the best to you and yours.