how much is sharged onto credit cards for these gifts? how long does it take to pay off what you put on the card?
How much do americans spend on average for christmas gifts every year?
more than they can affort
Reply:Americans are rich unlike us Mexicans.
Reply:We do not charge gifts, our kids are grown and married but we quit charging about 3 or 4 years before they left home. We give each adult $50, and each grandchild either $20 or a gift. We also give each family a new game to play on Christmas, usually a board game.
Reply:Not all Americans have the same ability to spend. Many do charge their gifts and paying off debt has become a national crisis. Some Americans simply need a place to sleep or eat. Its sad that we place so much emphasis on the dollar amount of a gift rather than the thoughtfullness put into it and the joy of giving. Enough editorial. This year I will spend no more than 25 dollars per child outside of my two who I will spend about 150 each. My wife would like a 100 carat diamond ring and a BMW 740 *sigh* , bit alas she will not get them this year. I want for nothing but the love of my family and a few of those priceless kisses and whispers of "I love you papi" from my daughter, a big smile on my sons face and the loving gaze of an adoring wife.
Reply:Depends on your credit card that you have, but Christmas is THE BIGGEST spending holiday in US. there is no other one that make more profit.
Reply:Well, we are either wise or cheap. But our average is like $15 per gift. A little more on a couple of special people. But I do buy for 3 trashmen, mailman, and the paperman. Oh, and a couple of special neighbors. Maybe that is why we our house is paid for along with our cars. We charge NOTHING! It's not worth suffering all year trying to pay off a credit card account, when half the time, people forget what you bought them in the first place.
Reply:$790.00 1/3 on credit cards. Too long
Reply:About 250.00 per person.
Reply:Credit card giant MasterCard Worldwide released a report on Monday that found the average American intends to shell out nearly $700 this winter on festivities such as Christmas, with almost $300 of that sum spent online for gifts.
Reply:Too much.
Reply:all depends on how big your family is and how many friends you buy for. cannot forget how many flings you have on the side and of course their children also. to sum it up, way to much.
Reply:Way too much and it takes us until May or June to pay it off!
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At what age should kids stop getting Christmas gifts from their aunt?
I have 2 nieces and 4 nephews ranging from age 8 to 17. What age is appropriate to stop buying them gifts as their aunt?
At what age should kids stop getting Christmas gifts from their aunt?
I understand where you're coming from... however, I would say instead of giving a gift, give some time. Offer to cook dinner for all of them over Christmas break. Take them out to a movie. Give a homemade coupon book for "free dinner on Aunt You" or "free ride to the mall on Aunt You." Make a memory instead of giving a gift.
The first year may be a bit transititional, but in the long run, it will be fine.
Reply:Why should you stop? Christmas gifts aren't about being a kid. It's about giving a little token of your love to your loved ones in celebration of the holiday. If you don't want to stop, why should you?
Reply:I have a bunch af neices and nephews and I never even sent them cards cause I never thought of doing it. Not a tight relationship w/ the sibs. Now I grieve every day because of this and I'm still "afraid" to try. Besides they aren't much talking to me now either.
All in a way of saying.....that if you have a warm active relationship with these relatives, always keep it in your heart and never give it up for anything, and you won't have to worry about timetables and deadlines for gift-giving. Bless you....
Reply:when you think you can stop your self . If you can't afford this let the older ones know .Or stop when they are out of school .
Reply:I guess it depends on how close you are to them. I'm really close with my aunt and we'll be exchanging gifts for the rest of our lives.
Reply:TELL THEM THAT YOU NOT BUYING GIFTS THIS CHRISTMAS ,ITS GETTING TO EXPENSIVE ..THEY SHOULD UNDERSTAND. IF NOT THEYLL GET OVER IT..THEY ARE AT THE RIGHT AGE TO STOP.THANKS FOR THIS QUESTION..
Reply:It will all depend on the aunt,mabey till the person passes or mabey anytime,the gifts will get smaller and smaller though,if that happends then,lol it's gonna stop soon.
At what age should kids stop getting Christmas gifts from their aunt?
I understand where you're coming from... however, I would say instead of giving a gift, give some time. Offer to cook dinner for all of them over Christmas break. Take them out to a movie. Give a homemade coupon book for "free dinner on Aunt You" or "free ride to the mall on Aunt You." Make a memory instead of giving a gift.
The first year may be a bit transititional, but in the long run, it will be fine.
Reply:Why should you stop? Christmas gifts aren't about being a kid. It's about giving a little token of your love to your loved ones in celebration of the holiday. If you don't want to stop, why should you?
Reply:I have a bunch af neices and nephews and I never even sent them cards cause I never thought of doing it. Not a tight relationship w/ the sibs. Now I grieve every day because of this and I'm still "afraid" to try. Besides they aren't much talking to me now either.
All in a way of saying.....that if you have a warm active relationship with these relatives, always keep it in your heart and never give it up for anything, and you won't have to worry about timetables and deadlines for gift-giving. Bless you....
Reply:when you think you can stop your self . If you can't afford this let the older ones know .Or stop when they are out of school .
Reply:I guess it depends on how close you are to them. I'm really close with my aunt and we'll be exchanging gifts for the rest of our lives.
Reply:TELL THEM THAT YOU NOT BUYING GIFTS THIS CHRISTMAS ,ITS GETTING TO EXPENSIVE ..THEY SHOULD UNDERSTAND. IF NOT THEYLL GET OVER IT..THEY ARE AT THE RIGHT AGE TO STOP.THANKS FOR THIS QUESTION..
Reply:It will all depend on the aunt,mabey till the person passes or mabey anytime,the gifts will get smaller and smaller though,if that happends then,lol it's gonna stop soon.
When should parents stop buying large christmas gifts for their children?
I have noticed, after the age of 20, I started to receive little gifts like toiletries at Christmas, as opposed to larger gifts when I was younger.
What age should parents stop buying larger gifts for their adult children?
When should parents stop buying large christmas gifts for their children?
As soon as they are 18 or leave home. Then the grandkids come and it starts all over again with them. It is all good though. love the grands
Reply:Whenever the parents feel like it or whenever the kids request smaller gifts.
Reply:It depends like what do you give them do expect a car I dont mean to be mean I dont know what you want but finacially they give what you want and what you give your an adult now so they dont want to give you everything to but they might not be able to afford it all there just mean parents.
Reply:I don't think age should play a factor on what adult children get from their parents. Christmas is about being with your family not how large or small the gifts are and when you were younger, things were not as expensive. Just be happy that they are still around to give you a gift.
Reply:When the kids have kids!
Reply:that's like saying when should parents start spending more money on individual gifts.size as is money should never matter. Jesus accepted the song from a lowly peasant child.Compared to the gifts from the three wise men.Its the thought that counts. many will go with out this yr. consider your self fortunate.
Reply:NEVER!
If parents can afford to keep up the tradition in their family do it.
I am a parent. I have two grown sons. One is married. One is not any more. No children. I give the same to them as if they were home. I would ask the girls what they wanted.
If they both would have children my grandchildren, well each of my children and their wives would get one gift each, because the grandchildren would get gifts all from Santa.
My boys and their wives, might get two gifts each. There is NO Age Limit on your children's gifts at Christmas. It is tradition. Now you have to find out what your family's traditions is if your are getting small gifts.
Reply:Never!
Reply:Probably about 18 to 20 or when they are old enough to buy them for their selves.
Reply:When the children reach the age of 16
Reply:why you not getting big presents anymore have to do with kids? sorry confused.
to answer youre question, not really. kids can't afford big presents and they usually wait till christmas to get them. once your in college or out, they should stop because the "kids" should be able to work and get things they want themselves.
Reply:It should depend on needs and finacial means.....if you have the money why not buy your adult child the 300 dollar cappicino maker they were raving a bout Or a new paint job for their car
Reply:When they die, then you get the whole enchilada!
Reply:when they finish college
Reply:It depends on the family. Your parents probably stopped giving large gifts at 20 because that's when their parents stopped with them, so they think it's the right way to do it. My parents still give me large gifts in my 30's but it's not necessarily a good thing because I don't feel motivated to save for those extras. Anyway Christmas isn't just about the stuff you get, right?
Reply:they should not stop
What age should parents stop buying larger gifts for their adult children?
When should parents stop buying large christmas gifts for their children?
As soon as they are 18 or leave home. Then the grandkids come and it starts all over again with them. It is all good though. love the grands
Reply:Whenever the parents feel like it or whenever the kids request smaller gifts.
Reply:It depends like what do you give them do expect a car I dont mean to be mean I dont know what you want but finacially they give what you want and what you give your an adult now so they dont want to give you everything to but they might not be able to afford it all there just mean parents.
Reply:I don't think age should play a factor on what adult children get from their parents. Christmas is about being with your family not how large or small the gifts are and when you were younger, things were not as expensive. Just be happy that they are still around to give you a gift.
Reply:When the kids have kids!
Reply:that's like saying when should parents start spending more money on individual gifts.size as is money should never matter. Jesus accepted the song from a lowly peasant child.Compared to the gifts from the three wise men.Its the thought that counts. many will go with out this yr. consider your self fortunate.
Reply:NEVER!
If parents can afford to keep up the tradition in their family do it.
I am a parent. I have two grown sons. One is married. One is not any more. No children. I give the same to them as if they were home. I would ask the girls what they wanted.
If they both would have children my grandchildren, well each of my children and their wives would get one gift each, because the grandchildren would get gifts all from Santa.
My boys and their wives, might get two gifts each. There is NO Age Limit on your children's gifts at Christmas. It is tradition. Now you have to find out what your family's traditions is if your are getting small gifts.
Reply:Never!
Reply:Probably about 18 to 20 or when they are old enough to buy them for their selves.
Reply:When the children reach the age of 16
Reply:why you not getting big presents anymore have to do with kids? sorry confused.
to answer youre question, not really. kids can't afford big presents and they usually wait till christmas to get them. once your in college or out, they should stop because the "kids" should be able to work and get things they want themselves.
Reply:It should depend on needs and finacial means.....if you have the money why not buy your adult child the 300 dollar cappicino maker they were raving a bout Or a new paint job for their car
Reply:When they die, then you get the whole enchilada!
Reply:when they finish college
Reply:It depends on the family. Your parents probably stopped giving large gifts at 20 because that's when their parents stopped with them, so they think it's the right way to do it. My parents still give me large gifts in my 30's but it's not necessarily a good thing because I don't feel motivated to save for those extras. Anyway Christmas isn't just about the stuff you get, right?
Reply:they should not stop
Why not open all gifts at a birthday party?
Someone just asked a question regarding birthday party schedules, etc. It brought to mind a question: Besides time constraints which can easily be avoided with planning, why don't some parents let their children open all the gifts at birthday parties?
Recently, my daughter spent almost an hour picking out a gift for her friend. She was so excited and couldn't wait to see her friend's reaction when he opened her carefully wrapped gift. At the birthday party, the birthday boy's parents let him open some of the gifts, but not all of them. I'm not sure whether it was a matter of time constraints, but my daughter and some of the other children were very disappointed when he didn't open their gifts. In addition, the parents didn't even send a thank you card to my daughter acknowleging the gift.
What do you think is proper etiquette in this situation?
Why not open all gifts at a birthday party?
Because sometimes particular gifts overshadow others and sometimes the parents want to avoid the awkwardness encountered when a child gets 2 presents in a row of obviously different levels of thoughtfulness. Otherwise the parents couldn't be bothered to send a thank you card. Odd though, since I don't send out thank you cards and nobody I know does so I wouldn't be offended if i didn't receive one, but it is nice - don't be offended they probably didn't realize it was important to you and it's just assumed you believe that you're thankful. That, or they're jerks.
Reply:I think gifts should be opened at home and thank you notes should be sent.
Reply:I'm appalled by the fact that no thank you note was sent but unfortunately that is just a sign of the times. More than anything, a thank you note should be sent to get the b-day child accustomed to expressing their gratitude.
As for not opening up all of the presents, sounds like a lack of prior planning.
Reply:I understand not opening gifts at a wedding reception but I've never heard of anyone not allowing a child to open all of his birthday gifts at his birthday party. It's sort of bizarre. There's only one thing to do in this situation and that's to explain to your daughter why thank you notes are so important. You've already done well for her with her attitude towards giving.
Reply:Possibly its also to do with the high level of excitement that can be present at these occasions among the children. There might be a concern that things will not be properly appreciated when opening so many presents at one go, the amount of new presents around that could get lost or inadvertently broken, and the mess created by all the wrappings. That being said, if the unwrapping is properly planned and monitored, I think that most of that could be avoided. But will small children sit still long enough for a full present unwrapping? And its unacceptable not to respond to gifts with a thank you note.
Reply:i believe you are right about the planning of a party where the opening of all the gifts is mandatory . thank you notes for children ? if you are a member of say a higher society where every gift is expected to elicit a response than it wouldnt hurt to teach the kids to be ready for the low laying rules of such a society , if not , dont worry about it , as long as they bring a gift for your child on her birthday youll know it wasnt un - appreciated .
Reply:Maybe because the other kids at the party would be jealous that they don't get presents, especially if they see the birthday boy or girl opening a present that they really want for themselves.
Recently, my daughter spent almost an hour picking out a gift for her friend. She was so excited and couldn't wait to see her friend's reaction when he opened her carefully wrapped gift. At the birthday party, the birthday boy's parents let him open some of the gifts, but not all of them. I'm not sure whether it was a matter of time constraints, but my daughter and some of the other children were very disappointed when he didn't open their gifts. In addition, the parents didn't even send a thank you card to my daughter acknowleging the gift.
What do you think is proper etiquette in this situation?
Why not open all gifts at a birthday party?
Because sometimes particular gifts overshadow others and sometimes the parents want to avoid the awkwardness encountered when a child gets 2 presents in a row of obviously different levels of thoughtfulness. Otherwise the parents couldn't be bothered to send a thank you card. Odd though, since I don't send out thank you cards and nobody I know does so I wouldn't be offended if i didn't receive one, but it is nice - don't be offended they probably didn't realize it was important to you and it's just assumed you believe that you're thankful. That, or they're jerks.
Reply:I think gifts should be opened at home and thank you notes should be sent.
Reply:I'm appalled by the fact that no thank you note was sent but unfortunately that is just a sign of the times. More than anything, a thank you note should be sent to get the b-day child accustomed to expressing their gratitude.
As for not opening up all of the presents, sounds like a lack of prior planning.
Reply:I understand not opening gifts at a wedding reception but I've never heard of anyone not allowing a child to open all of his birthday gifts at his birthday party. It's sort of bizarre. There's only one thing to do in this situation and that's to explain to your daughter why thank you notes are so important. You've already done well for her with her attitude towards giving.
Reply:Possibly its also to do with the high level of excitement that can be present at these occasions among the children. There might be a concern that things will not be properly appreciated when opening so many presents at one go, the amount of new presents around that could get lost or inadvertently broken, and the mess created by all the wrappings. That being said, if the unwrapping is properly planned and monitored, I think that most of that could be avoided. But will small children sit still long enough for a full present unwrapping? And its unacceptable not to respond to gifts with a thank you note.
Reply:i believe you are right about the planning of a party where the opening of all the gifts is mandatory . thank you notes for children ? if you are a member of say a higher society where every gift is expected to elicit a response than it wouldnt hurt to teach the kids to be ready for the low laying rules of such a society , if not , dont worry about it , as long as they bring a gift for your child on her birthday youll know it wasnt un - appreciated .
Reply:Maybe because the other kids at the party would be jealous that they don't get presents, especially if they see the birthday boy or girl opening a present that they really want for themselves.
What gifts should I bring to Hungary and Romania?
I'm visiting family and friends in Budapest and Transylvania this summer and I wanted to bring some nice gifts for them. I live in Los Angeles, and I'd like to bring them something they can't easily get in Eastern Europe. Any ideas?
What gifts should I bring to Hungary and Romania?
It's a difficult question as one can buy everything in both countries... If I had a visitor from the U.S., I think I'd be happy to get DVDs and books (for some reason even if a popular TV series has been shown in Hungary it takes ages for the DVD to come out if at all...), but of course if your family/friends can't speak English, it's not an option. You know these people (don't you?), so you might have an idea about their hobbies and interests? Also, only you know what you can afford!
Some years ago when I visited a friend in Scotland I had the same problem: what can I bring her as a present which she can't get there? My mum suggested a shop selling all kinds of really beautiful old-fashioned cushions - so I went there and saw a nice bolster with ladies in a row in 18th century clothes and funny wigs. I just loved it so I bought it and my friend was really happy with it. Later, I bought one for myself! But it was half inspiration, half chance, I think.
Well, anyway, I hope you can think of something. Maybe you could ask a family member you'll be visiting to give you a tip?
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Reply:In Hungary the prices for games and DvD's are higher than in the states. The little ones in my family went crazy when I brought a Xbox 360 from the states, I bought a load of games too as those cost 75 euros or over a 1000 forint. For Older people depending on who, I suggest kithchen appliances and cutlery or dishware. Keep in mind, newer electronics cost more, so I suggest electronics.
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Reply:your going to budspest...omg..im from there..havent been there in FOREVER! well im 20 and its been about 12 years. so yeah. well since u live in l.a. go to hollywood and bring them back something from there favorite actor or something if they like that stuff over here. are they any way part of the roczey family? im a roczey and its a pretty big family over there.
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What gifts should I bring to Hungary and Romania?
It's a difficult question as one can buy everything in both countries... If I had a visitor from the U.S., I think I'd be happy to get DVDs and books (for some reason even if a popular TV series has been shown in Hungary it takes ages for the DVD to come out if at all...), but of course if your family/friends can't speak English, it's not an option. You know these people (don't you?), so you might have an idea about their hobbies and interests? Also, only you know what you can afford!
Some years ago when I visited a friend in Scotland I had the same problem: what can I bring her as a present which she can't get there? My mum suggested a shop selling all kinds of really beautiful old-fashioned cushions - so I went there and saw a nice bolster with ladies in a row in 18th century clothes and funny wigs. I just loved it so I bought it and my friend was really happy with it. Later, I bought one for myself! But it was half inspiration, half chance, I think.
Well, anyway, I hope you can think of something. Maybe you could ask a family member you'll be visiting to give you a tip?
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Reply:In Hungary the prices for games and DvD's are higher than in the states. The little ones in my family went crazy when I brought a Xbox 360 from the states, I bought a load of games too as those cost 75 euros or over a 1000 forint. For Older people depending on who, I suggest kithchen appliances and cutlery or dishware. Keep in mind, newer electronics cost more, so I suggest electronics.
Reply:Denim jeans
Reply:your going to budspest...omg..im from there..havent been there in FOREVER! well im 20 and its been about 12 years. so yeah. well since u live in l.a. go to hollywood and bring them back something from there favorite actor or something if they like that stuff over here. are they any way part of the roczey family? im a roczey and its a pretty big family over there.
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What's an appropriate amount to spend on attendant gifts?
I'm browsing around for attendant gifts for my December wedding and I'm not sure how much is the right amount to spend. What are good gifts to give? Where can I get them? Has to be something that would work for younger and older bridesmaids...I've got a 21 and 22 year old but also my husband-to-be's 12-year-old sister. I would like to get them all the same thing. I've already purchased a necklace and earring set for the ceremony for each of them but would like to get them something that's not ceremony-related as well. Any suggestions? All help is welcome!
What's an appropriate amount to spend on attendant gifts?
My wedding is December too! but next December.
I would agree that I don't think you need to get all the girls the same thing. The 12 year old is not going to enjoy the same things as a 22 year old. What to get them all depends on your budget. My budget is about $75 per girl. I'm planning on getting them coach wristlets along with something that fits their personalities (one girl is getting an ipod mini, another is getting all this wine stuff). Get them something that they're going to use instead of something that's going to sit in their rooms.
Reply:The gifts you get them probably should be age appropriate. Something a 21 or 22 year old would enjoy, a 12 year old probably won't. I much prefer the idea of selecting the gifts for the individual rather than giving them all the same thing. How much you should spend is really up to how much you have in that budget, then divide it equally. But I suppose a decent range would be $25 - $50 (or more if you can afford it).
Reply:I also agree with the other two because 12 year olds like things different then a 21-22 year old would. Find out your budget for the girls and find out what they want or like a lot and get it for them of course when they aren't with or it won't be a surprise.
What's an appropriate amount to spend on attendant gifts?
My wedding is December too! but next December.
I would agree that I don't think you need to get all the girls the same thing. The 12 year old is not going to enjoy the same things as a 22 year old. What to get them all depends on your budget. My budget is about $75 per girl. I'm planning on getting them coach wristlets along with something that fits their personalities (one girl is getting an ipod mini, another is getting all this wine stuff). Get them something that they're going to use instead of something that's going to sit in their rooms.
Reply:The gifts you get them probably should be age appropriate. Something a 21 or 22 year old would enjoy, a 12 year old probably won't. I much prefer the idea of selecting the gifts for the individual rather than giving them all the same thing. How much you should spend is really up to how much you have in that budget, then divide it equally. But I suppose a decent range would be $25 - $50 (or more if you can afford it).
Reply:I also agree with the other two because 12 year olds like things different then a 21-22 year old would. Find out your budget for the girls and find out what they want or like a lot and get it for them of course when they aren't with or it won't be a surprise.
Are there any great photo sites (like Shutterfly) around online to create photo gifts and online albums?
I am looking for some sites that have similar photo options (preferably better) than Shutterfly. Key factors are reliability, price range (I am willing to pay for quality, but not over-pay),and original options. The plan is to to create some calenders, photo books, and other such gifts. All useful suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Are there any great photo sites (like Shutterfly) around online to create photo gifts and online albums?
Cafepress: http://www.cafepress.com/cp/info/storere...
You can create and sell a variety of customizable products (posters, tshirts, calendars, cards, ...) with zero upfront costs and zero inventory investment.
Reply:Kodak Easy Share.
Reply:Try going to Photobucket.com and type in what you're looking for
Reply:I made a great Picture gift for a friend for X-mas through Walgreens.com. They have really cute stationary ideas and many more picture gifts. I thought it was quite cheap myself.
Are there any great photo sites (like Shutterfly) around online to create photo gifts and online albums?
Cafepress: http://www.cafepress.com/cp/info/storere...
You can create and sell a variety of customizable products (posters, tshirts, calendars, cards, ...) with zero upfront costs and zero inventory investment.
Reply:Kodak Easy Share.
Reply:Try going to Photobucket.com and type in what you're looking for
Reply:I made a great Picture gift for a friend for X-mas through Walgreens.com. They have really cute stationary ideas and many more picture gifts. I thought it was quite cheap myself.
When do you start giving gifts as a couple?
When you are dating, and going to family events, when do you give gifts as a couple? I am going to my niece's first communion, which my boyfriend was invited to. I don't think he got her a gift, or even thought about it. Should I put his name on my gift? What is appropriate here?
When do you start giving gifts as a couple?
This is interesting question and it came up in my family a few years ago. My brother was married and had a daughter, this meant at birthday times through out the year I would buy three presents - one for him, one for his wife and one for his daughter. Does this mean that its ok for him to give me a gift on my birthday that is from all three of them? Fortunately for me, my brothers family saw the unfairness of this, and every birthday and christmas they give me a present from each of them, just as I give each of them a present.
I am a firm believer that when people become a couple they should not stop being their individual selves. I think your boyfriend should buy your neice something if that is what all the other guests are expected to do. It can just be something small and inexpensive. Alternatively he could give her a nice card that he picked and signed himself. Even the ones who are married don't need to give a gift 'together'.
Anyway why should you train your boyfriend at this very early stage of the relationship that you will be the one for the rest of his life that thinks about the presents and takes care of it for him. Men need to understand that it is good for them to think for a few moments about somebody elese other than themselves and learn the talent of selecting a suitable gift. Start as you wish to continue.
Reply:My personal opinion:
If he was invited ON HIS OWN, and you are not a couple; then each should buy a present.
If you are a couple (not just going together to the communion), give one present.
Reply:As long as you are a couple you can start giving gifts as a couple. You may leave his name out if you feel like it. Afterall he didn't pay half of it. Only when he starts to offer to pay half of any gifts do you put in his name. Otherwise he will be spoiled and will forever not pay for any gifts for any friends or relatives. You have to teach him how to behave. Request that he pays half or his name won't be put on the gift. If that is what he feels comfortable with, then let it be. Why cover for him if he doesn't feel any shame for not contributing. If you keep covering for him, he will keep letting you do it.
Reply:If you are invited to an event as a couple, then it is acceptable to give a gift as a couple.
Your niece's first communion does not count as such an event -- no doubt she does not recognize you as a couple, yet. Only after you are legally married should you attempt a "from both of us" gift at a family function.
Also, it is inadvisable at this point to get your boyfriend accustomed to sticking his name on a gift you have purchased... it sets a bad precedent you will live to regret.
When do you start giving gifts as a couple?
This is interesting question and it came up in my family a few years ago. My brother was married and had a daughter, this meant at birthday times through out the year I would buy three presents - one for him, one for his wife and one for his daughter. Does this mean that its ok for him to give me a gift on my birthday that is from all three of them? Fortunately for me, my brothers family saw the unfairness of this, and every birthday and christmas they give me a present from each of them, just as I give each of them a present.
I am a firm believer that when people become a couple they should not stop being their individual selves. I think your boyfriend should buy your neice something if that is what all the other guests are expected to do. It can just be something small and inexpensive. Alternatively he could give her a nice card that he picked and signed himself. Even the ones who are married don't need to give a gift 'together'.
Anyway why should you train your boyfriend at this very early stage of the relationship that you will be the one for the rest of his life that thinks about the presents and takes care of it for him. Men need to understand that it is good for them to think for a few moments about somebody elese other than themselves and learn the talent of selecting a suitable gift. Start as you wish to continue.
Reply:My personal opinion:
If he was invited ON HIS OWN, and you are not a couple; then each should buy a present.
If you are a couple (not just going together to the communion), give one present.
Reply:As long as you are a couple you can start giving gifts as a couple. You may leave his name out if you feel like it. Afterall he didn't pay half of it. Only when he starts to offer to pay half of any gifts do you put in his name. Otherwise he will be spoiled and will forever not pay for any gifts for any friends or relatives. You have to teach him how to behave. Request that he pays half or his name won't be put on the gift. If that is what he feels comfortable with, then let it be. Why cover for him if he doesn't feel any shame for not contributing. If you keep covering for him, he will keep letting you do it.
Reply:If you are invited to an event as a couple, then it is acceptable to give a gift as a couple.
Your niece's first communion does not count as such an event -- no doubt she does not recognize you as a couple, yet. Only after you are legally married should you attempt a "from both of us" gift at a family function.
Also, it is inadvisable at this point to get your boyfriend accustomed to sticking his name on a gift you have purchased... it sets a bad precedent you will live to regret.
How do you feel about personalized gifts?
Do you like receiving gifts that are personalized with your name, messages to you or items that have pictures of you and your loved ones on them? Do they have more meaning to you than other gifts with no personalization? I am thinking about getting gifts for my family with family pictures on the gifts. I have already ordered mugs for my parents with pictures of the two of them on the mugs and will be getting more things for them and my other family members.
How do you feel about personalized gifts?
cool idea! also remember tha funny6 photos of loved ones are great on gifts. You know - last year when the dog knocked the tree down or when the baby's diaper fell off! personalized stuff is a great gift
Reply:Awesome idea. As a first time grandma I can't get enough pics with my grandson, lol.
Reply:I love getting and giving personalized gifts. I know that getting a personalized gift reminds me of the person that gave me the gift. I've given "scrapbook pages" as gifts and they have always been a big hit. The recipient often tears up as they look at the pictures of the things we have done together and read the captions.
Very cool idea.
Reply:I think personalized gifts are great! I am doing the same thing this year for what's left of my family.... They have those cool picture frames with the pictures that flash through it... I'm having a brain fart, but I think you know they change every 10 seconds or so...
Reply:i think they are amazing if u r thinking of making a personilized gift think no farther u really should
Reply:I love personalized gifts. It shows you took that extra little time to make a present more than just a usual present. I really like the idea of mugs, calendars, bags, etc. I know my relatives love anything like that! :o)
Reply:These are the best gifts because it show that you put thought into each gift that you are giving. You didn't just go tot the mall and pick up some random expensive crap.
Reply:Personalization adds that personal touch. Makes a gift all that more special....because its a one of a kind gift.
There are great photo engraved gifts you can buy these days...wood memory boxes.....an excellent choice!
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How do you feel about personalized gifts?
cool idea! also remember tha funny6 photos of loved ones are great on gifts. You know - last year when the dog knocked the tree down or when the baby's diaper fell off! personalized stuff is a great gift
Reply:Awesome idea. As a first time grandma I can't get enough pics with my grandson, lol.
Reply:I love getting and giving personalized gifts. I know that getting a personalized gift reminds me of the person that gave me the gift. I've given "scrapbook pages" as gifts and they have always been a big hit. The recipient often tears up as they look at the pictures of the things we have done together and read the captions.
Very cool idea.
Reply:I think personalized gifts are great! I am doing the same thing this year for what's left of my family.... They have those cool picture frames with the pictures that flash through it... I'm having a brain fart, but I think you know they change every 10 seconds or so...
Reply:i think they are amazing if u r thinking of making a personilized gift think no farther u really should
Reply:I love personalized gifts. It shows you took that extra little time to make a present more than just a usual present. I really like the idea of mugs, calendars, bags, etc. I know my relatives love anything like that! :o)
Reply:These are the best gifts because it show that you put thought into each gift that you are giving. You didn't just go tot the mall and pick up some random expensive crap.
Reply:Personalization adds that personal touch. Makes a gift all that more special....because its a one of a kind gift.
There are great photo engraved gifts you can buy these days...wood memory boxes.....an excellent choice!
Bad Breath
What do you do with an adult who gifts excessively to everyone?
She is bipolar, and shops compulsively, therefore on any occasion she always overloads everyone with trinkets and stuff. She also makes beautiful craft items, but the overgifting makes us uncomfortable. ie) she gave us 53 gifts for our birthday, all individually wrapped. it took 2 people to carry the totes out to the car. She has been told it is excessive and 1 gift was more than enough.
What do you do with an adult who gifts excessively to everyone?
The problem is that when you are dealing with someone who is Bi Polar you are talking to a person who fails to understand logic in certain areas.They can be brilliant and quite normal in some regards but completely irrational in others and trying to explain to her the untoward manner of her giving will likely fall on deaf ears if not generate a hostile or at least negative response.
Bi Polar sufferers can be readily antagonized so don't criticize- rather suggest that 'so and so' whilst very thankful of her past generosity 'really could do with/appreciate' and then specify the type of modest gift you or others think suitable.
Encourage her to think of it as her own idea or allow her to choose style/color/size so that she has an input.
Bi Polars need guidance and help in determining norms and will not manage this by themselves-so someone needs to go shopping with her and gently steer her away from excess.
Good Luck
Reply:Tell her you appreciate the gestures but it makes the rest of you look bad.
Reply:I thought bearbrai had a good answer. If she just can't be controlled, though, then donate the excess to charity and it will be a win/win situation.
Reply:Regifting the excess to her and others at future occaisions.
Reply:Sounds like she is quite "strange". Is she having too much money?
Reply:Some people over compensate thinking the more they do...the more it shows they care. Maybe you could suggest that there may be something SPECIAL you want or need that she could buy or make for you. She may get the hint that unnecessary gifts you have no need or room for , could bless someone else she knows. Let her know you admire her generosity and that a special gift that shows she cares would be more useful.
Reply:start making disgusted faces when you open your gifts. perhaps she will get the hint that she is a bad gifter and she might buy less to hide her embarrassment.
What do you do with an adult who gifts excessively to everyone?
The problem is that when you are dealing with someone who is Bi Polar you are talking to a person who fails to understand logic in certain areas.They can be brilliant and quite normal in some regards but completely irrational in others and trying to explain to her the untoward manner of her giving will likely fall on deaf ears if not generate a hostile or at least negative response.
Bi Polar sufferers can be readily antagonized so don't criticize- rather suggest that 'so and so' whilst very thankful of her past generosity 'really could do with/appreciate' and then specify the type of modest gift you or others think suitable.
Encourage her to think of it as her own idea or allow her to choose style/color/size so that she has an input.
Bi Polars need guidance and help in determining norms and will not manage this by themselves-so someone needs to go shopping with her and gently steer her away from excess.
Good Luck
Reply:Tell her you appreciate the gestures but it makes the rest of you look bad.
Reply:I thought bearbrai had a good answer. If she just can't be controlled, though, then donate the excess to charity and it will be a win/win situation.
Reply:Regifting the excess to her and others at future occaisions.
Reply:Sounds like she is quite "strange". Is she having too much money?
Reply:Some people over compensate thinking the more they do...the more it shows they care. Maybe you could suggest that there may be something SPECIAL you want or need that she could buy or make for you. She may get the hint that unnecessary gifts you have no need or room for , could bless someone else she knows. Let her know you admire her generosity and that a special gift that shows she cares would be more useful.
Reply:start making disgusted faces when you open your gifts. perhaps she will get the hint that she is a bad gifter and she might buy less to hide her embarrassment.
What are some great birthday gifts for 6 year olds?
We are looking for ideas in the electronics department or just regular toys/games/fun gifts.
What are some great birthday gifts for 6 year olds?
Take a day off work and spend it just with them, doing whatever they want.
It will be more important to them than any toy.
If there is no way you can do this, spend an entire evening with them, no cell phone, no blackberry, just go to the park and swing and play.
End with some pizza and Ice Cream.
Peace!
Reply:Books (for reading at bedtime), stuffed animals, cars and dump trucks, remote cars, shoes with skates, ball, Candyland, Chutes and Ladders, Sorry.
Reply:ps3
Reply:silly dough
action figures
hot wheels toy cars
things made by hot wheels
cranuim board game
old maid game cards
toy doodoo
go to walmart into the boy's section and find out.
Reply:Power tools.
Reply:Get him a "special pal" teddy bear with his/her name on it (ex. Billy's buddy or Jane's pal). You can make your own at http://www.cafepress.com/?pid=3363961 by going to the Make My Own Stuff button at the top of the page.
Reply:A trip to the Build a Bear Factory.
You make a teddy bear/bunny rabbit from scratch and then dress them up in fancy gear.
A great morning out together and you get a great present to cuddle, your daughter should like it too.
Reply:do like I always did before my kids birthday - go to the store and just walk around the toys with the child - they will let you know what they want - keep this in mind - go back with out them and pick something they wanted.
Or tell the child you have to get cousin Billy/Emily something ask what do you think they would like believe me they will show you just what they want
Reply:Gifts for a six year old girls are: puppy, jewelry set, leap frog educational set, barbie dolls...just to name a few.
Gifts for a six year old boy are: puppy, fire engine, basketball set, water gun, playstation 2, or money.
Reply:depends on if the child is a boy or a girl. there are tamagotchi`s that come in a range of colours. umm there are little model sets that you can buy where the child can bulid and paint anything from a jewellry box to a toy train.
Reply:A toy car if a boy.And a doll if a girl.
What are some great birthday gifts for 6 year olds?
Take a day off work and spend it just with them, doing whatever they want.
It will be more important to them than any toy.
If there is no way you can do this, spend an entire evening with them, no cell phone, no blackberry, just go to the park and swing and play.
End with some pizza and Ice Cream.
Peace!
Reply:Books (for reading at bedtime), stuffed animals, cars and dump trucks, remote cars, shoes with skates, ball, Candyland, Chutes and Ladders, Sorry.
Reply:ps3
Reply:silly dough
action figures
hot wheels toy cars
things made by hot wheels
cranuim board game
old maid game cards
toy doodoo
go to walmart into the boy's section and find out.
Reply:Power tools.
Reply:Get him a "special pal" teddy bear with his/her name on it (ex. Billy's buddy or Jane's pal). You can make your own at http://www.cafepress.com/?pid=3363961 by going to the Make My Own Stuff button at the top of the page.
Reply:A trip to the Build a Bear Factory.
You make a teddy bear/bunny rabbit from scratch and then dress them up in fancy gear.
A great morning out together and you get a great present to cuddle, your daughter should like it too.
Reply:do like I always did before my kids birthday - go to the store and just walk around the toys with the child - they will let you know what they want - keep this in mind - go back with out them and pick something they wanted.
Or tell the child you have to get cousin Billy/Emily something ask what do you think they would like believe me they will show you just what they want
Reply:Gifts for a six year old girls are: puppy, jewelry set, leap frog educational set, barbie dolls...just to name a few.
Gifts for a six year old boy are: puppy, fire engine, basketball set, water gun, playstation 2, or money.
Reply:depends on if the child is a boy or a girl. there are tamagotchi`s that come in a range of colours. umm there are little model sets that you can buy where the child can bulid and paint anything from a jewellry box to a toy train.
Reply:A toy car if a boy.And a doll if a girl.
What are the usually gifts for a engagement party?
What types of gifts do you buy for a couple's engagement.
What are the usually gifts for a engagement party?
No gifts is expected at an engagment party. However, if you opt and feel compelled to bring something, a card and a bottle of champagne or wine is the norm. Some people also may show with potted plants or flowers, but generally, no gifts are expected.
Good luck
Reply:If a gift is expected of you, I would just put some money into a card so it could go towards the couple's eventual wedding.
Reply:Gifts are not required for an engagement party, just take a card.
Reply:A bottle of wine. Gifts aren't usually given for an engagement.
Reply:Well just for the engagement itself, I would give a bottle of wine and a set of glasses. But if it's an actual engagement party, I would just give money. That is the general gift idea. Plus it will go towards helping the couple pay for their wedding! =)
What are the usually gifts for a engagement party?
No gifts is expected at an engagment party. However, if you opt and feel compelled to bring something, a card and a bottle of champagne or wine is the norm. Some people also may show with potted plants or flowers, but generally, no gifts are expected.
Good luck
Reply:If a gift is expected of you, I would just put some money into a card so it could go towards the couple's eventual wedding.
Reply:Gifts are not required for an engagement party, just take a card.
Reply:A bottle of wine. Gifts aren't usually given for an engagement.
Reply:Well just for the engagement itself, I would give a bottle of wine and a set of glasses. But if it's an actual engagement party, I would just give money. That is the general gift idea. Plus it will go towards helping the couple pay for their wedding! =)
What are some famous gifts between two nations?
Example: The USA gave Europe $13 billion dollars in the Marshall Plan
What are some other famous gifts between two nations?
What are some famous gifts between two nations?
Statue of Liberty France to the USA
Cherry trees surrounding the Tidal Basin, Washington DC
Japan to the USA
here is a cool site with some gifts that have been given to the USA from other countries
http://www.archives.gov/exhibits/tokens_...
here is a site describing some of what went from USA during Carter's term of office
http://www.jimmycarterlibrary.org/museum...
http://128.83.78.247/giftsofstate/united... (focus from Lyndon Johnson's presidency)
this is an interesting topic...sort of hard to track things down!!
Reply:the statue of liberty.
Reply:Mexico gave a tremdous amount of money to help rebuild Chicago after the Great Fire, and in the 1980s Chicago sent a great deal of money to Mexico City after an enormous earthquake.
Reply:How about the Statue of Liberty to us from France?
Reply:England recieved Rebeccas jewels from the Hebrews to ransom king Richard from the Muslims.
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What are some other famous gifts between two nations?
What are some famous gifts between two nations?
Statue of Liberty France to the USA
Cherry trees surrounding the Tidal Basin, Washington DC
Japan to the USA
here is a cool site with some gifts that have been given to the USA from other countries
http://www.archives.gov/exhibits/tokens_...
here is a site describing some of what went from USA during Carter's term of office
http://www.jimmycarterlibrary.org/museum...
http://128.83.78.247/giftsofstate/united... (focus from Lyndon Johnson's presidency)
this is an interesting topic...sort of hard to track things down!!
Reply:the statue of liberty.
Reply:Mexico gave a tremdous amount of money to help rebuild Chicago after the Great Fire, and in the 1980s Chicago sent a great deal of money to Mexico City after an enormous earthquake.
Reply:How about the Statue of Liberty to us from France?
Reply:England recieved Rebeccas jewels from the Hebrews to ransom king Richard from the Muslims.
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What stores can you get cash back for wedding registry gifts?
We basically want cash gifts for our wedding but we know that is kind of rude to ask for. So we're looking for a store where we can return gifts/gift certificates for cash back. Thanks!
What stores can you get cash back for wedding registry gifts?
Target doesn't. Crate %26amp; Barrel does.
Reply:I think Target does!
Reply:I haven't seen one..they all give back store credit..they will keep your money and only exchange
Reply:I think it's even more rude to return all the gifts. Some people don't always have time to go shopping. People work and are busy. It may be more convenient for them to give you cash or write a check. They may be upset to find out that after they spend that time shopping you only brought the gift back. If money is what you want or need, I'd be honest and ask for it.
Reply:None that I am aware of.
Reply:My daughter is getting married in Sept. She said Bed, Bath %26amp; Beyond and Linens 'n Things do.
Reply:usually unless the receipt is included and they did not pay with a credit card you will only get store credit.
The best you can do is pass that info along to your parents and bridal party and let them spread the word. Or you can not register at all and some people may not want to spend alot of time shopping and give you the cash.
Reply:I think that Bed,Bath, and Beyond does.
What stores can you get cash back for wedding registry gifts?
Target doesn't. Crate %26amp; Barrel does.
Reply:I think Target does!
Reply:I haven't seen one..they all give back store credit..they will keep your money and only exchange
Reply:I think it's even more rude to return all the gifts. Some people don't always have time to go shopping. People work and are busy. It may be more convenient for them to give you cash or write a check. They may be upset to find out that after they spend that time shopping you only brought the gift back. If money is what you want or need, I'd be honest and ask for it.
Reply:None that I am aware of.
Reply:My daughter is getting married in Sept. She said Bed, Bath %26amp; Beyond and Linens 'n Things do.
Reply:usually unless the receipt is included and they did not pay with a credit card you will only get store credit.
The best you can do is pass that info along to your parents and bridal party and let them spread the word. Or you can not register at all and some people may not want to spend alot of time shopping and give you the cash.
Reply:I think that Bed,Bath, and Beyond does.
Do you have to have a baby shower to register for gifts?
We are not really having a baby shower, but would like to send a nice announcement about our excitement for our baby and want to register for gifts....Is this proper...?
Do you have to have a baby shower to register for gifts?
No, you don't have to have a shower to create a registry. But don't include any registry information in the birth announcements--THAT would be improper.
I would let your parents and in-laws know where you are registered, in case other family members or friends ask them where you are registered. If people want the information, they know how to get it.
Besides, someone may end up hosting a baby shower for your wife anyway, so you never know.
Reply:you don't have to have a shower to register, but it is not proper to put where you're registered on the announcement--have your family spread the word to people as most will ask. also, another plus of registering, i know babies 'r' us and target will give you 10% off the "remaining" items on your registry after baby is born. so it's a good idea to also put a larger carseat, exersaucer, things for baby when it gets bigger.
Reply:You dont necessarily have to have a shower to register! As far as whether its proper Im not sure about that! If this is your first baby you should def have a shower, it helps you get everything you need! If not, it might just look like you are asking for gifts...then again Im pregnant with my second and I had a couple people ask if I was registered anywhere! So not sure about the etiquette but Congrats on the new baby!
Reply:That sounds fine. I got lots of gifts from relatives who live too far away to invite to a party. They still wanted to contribute to our baby. Registering helps them pick something you really need and you hopefully won't end up with twenty blankets and no bath stuff (which is what happened to me and I didn't register).
Do you have to have a baby shower to register for gifts?
No, you don't have to have a shower to create a registry. But don't include any registry information in the birth announcements--THAT would be improper.
I would let your parents and in-laws know where you are registered, in case other family members or friends ask them where you are registered. If people want the information, they know how to get it.
Besides, someone may end up hosting a baby shower for your wife anyway, so you never know.
Reply:you don't have to have a shower to register, but it is not proper to put where you're registered on the announcement--have your family spread the word to people as most will ask. also, another plus of registering, i know babies 'r' us and target will give you 10% off the "remaining" items on your registry after baby is born. so it's a good idea to also put a larger carseat, exersaucer, things for baby when it gets bigger.
Reply:You dont necessarily have to have a shower to register! As far as whether its proper Im not sure about that! If this is your first baby you should def have a shower, it helps you get everything you need! If not, it might just look like you are asking for gifts...then again Im pregnant with my second and I had a couple people ask if I was registered anywhere! So not sure about the etiquette but Congrats on the new baby!
Reply:That sounds fine. I got lots of gifts from relatives who live too far away to invite to a party. They still wanted to contribute to our baby. Registering helps them pick something you really need and you hopefully won't end up with twenty blankets and no bath stuff (which is what happened to me and I didn't register).
How can I convince people to not buy me gifts for Christmas?
I have told my wife and other family members not to give me gifts this year for Christmas. By their reaction, you would think I had slapped them. I have now heard the following, "giving is not for the reciever but the giver", "What, are you just going to sit there while everyone else opens gifts?" and "but if you buy me something it isn't fair if I don't buy you something". To be completely honest, there isn't anything I really need and everything I want is expensive. You would think people would be happy to not have to buy someone a gift.
How can I convince people to not buy me gifts for Christmas?
We are in the same position. We are content with our life and have little need for additional "stuff". (unless if someone wants to gift wood flooring or a new kitchen to us -lol)
For the last 5 years we have given out a list of charities, organizations we are interested in. (Sent with our Christmas cards to those that ask us "what would you like for Christmas").
Inside we have a little note- Your kindness and love is a gift in itself- one that is appreciated year round. Instead of any Christmas gifts to our family - we would greatly appreciate you spreading the love and giving to any of the following organizations.
Our list usually includes, Heifer (love giving Water Buffalo!-lol) , the Humane Society, our local shelter for the homeless- or the battered women's shelter. Find organizations that Mean something to you or your family. - Due to a death in our family this past year (because of cancer) - We will add the American Cancer Society onto this years list.
What we usually receive back to "open"-- are cards that say -
A Donation in your name has been made to ______. We take those cards and hang them on the tree.
As far as the "giving is not for the receiver but the giver" -- I can't tell you how many people have told us they enjoyed donating to these organizations .. and have started doing the same with their Christmas List. - Good Luck... and....
Merry Christmas!
Reply:Glad you liked my suggestion-
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Reply:Your family do not sound as if they are being very gracious about it but it is true in many cases that gifts may be something which bring joy to the giver. People do also feel uncomfortable about receiving gifts and not giving them.
Your wife is easy since, well she's your wife, just ask her straightforwardly if she really gets anything out of giving you a gift. If she does, you guys share finances, work something out so maybe you pay over time for something you really want. For your other family members you can try a variety of strategies depending on the person
- Have them donate to a charity in your name instead - that way they know they did get you something.
- Find out if they really are just getting you something as an obligation because you are getting them something. If that is the case how about neither of you buy each other a gift that avoids the awkwardness
- Request a gift card for a store that sells things you do want but are too expensive for one person - though make sure the store lets you combine gift cards.
Good luck and Merry Christmas
Reply:Tell them if they want to give something to you it can be a nice dinner or just their care for you
Reply:Some take that to mean that you don't want to give them anything. Also, you could be robbing them of their joy of shopping for you because they want to.
No one has to give me a gift but I will give a gift to whomever I love. I don't need their permission to make them a special person on my list.
Reply:Every year I go through the same thing and this year I did something a bit differently. I mailed (email, snail mail) and asked that instead of gifts that a small amount (20.00) or whatever be donated to United Way or from a small list of charities and orginaztion's that are non profit. I firmly stated that giving to those in need is giving me something for Christmas, pride knowing I am helping those who need it more than me. The animal shelter always needs something even if its not money and there are countless shelters and things that could use gift cards or food and have them donated in your name. Just a thought though.
Reply:Do what I did when the redhead asked me what I wanted:
"Give me a pumkin pie."
Don't need anything, don't really want anything. But a pumkin pie? I'd never turn down one of those.
Home made, not store bought!
Reply:They love you, tell them all you want are handmade things, or coupons for chores around the house they will do for you.
Reply:I think what you are really saying is "If you can't afford the things I really want I don't want anything." You of course can't say that, and you are a good guy for not saying it. Just let your loved ones do what they want. Get enjoyment of seeing their happy little faces as you smile and say "Its just what I wanted" Save your money and go get the expensive things yourself. Everybody is happy. HO HO HO Merry Christmas!!!!!!
Reply:They feel deprived of the good feeling one gets by giving to another. Perhaps you can suggest your family pools their money and donate it in your name to a favorite charity.
Reply:Personally, I think the whole premise of gift-giving during Christmas is stupid. Sure, get gifts for the kids and all, but adults do not need to swap gifts when they could be saving up to help some of our less fortunate fellow humans. Just another example of the extreme selfishness and ignorance of the Western World. But, in this scenario, there isn't really much you can do, as I'm sure your family will get you something *sigh*.
Reply:Put $3s into nice little envelopes. For those who insist on giving you a gift, give them one of those envelopes.
Reply:i don't know. I don't think you can control people or talk them out of giving you at least something. My mom doesn't have to give everyone littles gifts, but she continues to do so. Even $5 dollar gifts or gifts of 99 cents and or little knicknacks aren't much trouble for her.
...oh and i'm talking about not the immediate family here but far away relatives. So even if you tell them you don't want anything, they'll probably give you something so that you'll have something to open on X-mas. That's the way it was with our family.
Reply:I guess it is so rough for you that your family wants to inclkude you in their festivities
Reply:Tell them that you want Peace on Earth, Love in the Heart, and Happiness all the day through. If they can bottle that, send me some!
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How can I convince people to not buy me gifts for Christmas?
We are in the same position. We are content with our life and have little need for additional "stuff". (unless if someone wants to gift wood flooring or a new kitchen to us -lol)
For the last 5 years we have given out a list of charities, organizations we are interested in. (Sent with our Christmas cards to those that ask us "what would you like for Christmas").
Inside we have a little note- Your kindness and love is a gift in itself- one that is appreciated year round. Instead of any Christmas gifts to our family - we would greatly appreciate you spreading the love and giving to any of the following organizations.
Our list usually includes, Heifer (love giving Water Buffalo!-lol) , the Humane Society, our local shelter for the homeless- or the battered women's shelter. Find organizations that Mean something to you or your family. - Due to a death in our family this past year (because of cancer) - We will add the American Cancer Society onto this years list.
What we usually receive back to "open"-- are cards that say -
A Donation in your name has been made to ______. We take those cards and hang them on the tree.
As far as the "giving is not for the receiver but the giver" -- I can't tell you how many people have told us they enjoyed donating to these organizations .. and have started doing the same with their Christmas List. - Good Luck... and....
Merry Christmas!
Reply:Glad you liked my suggestion-
Have a wonderful holiday! Report It
Reply:Your family do not sound as if they are being very gracious about it but it is true in many cases that gifts may be something which bring joy to the giver. People do also feel uncomfortable about receiving gifts and not giving them.
Your wife is easy since, well she's your wife, just ask her straightforwardly if she really gets anything out of giving you a gift. If she does, you guys share finances, work something out so maybe you pay over time for something you really want. For your other family members you can try a variety of strategies depending on the person
- Have them donate to a charity in your name instead - that way they know they did get you something.
- Find out if they really are just getting you something as an obligation because you are getting them something. If that is the case how about neither of you buy each other a gift that avoids the awkwardness
- Request a gift card for a store that sells things you do want but are too expensive for one person - though make sure the store lets you combine gift cards.
Good luck and Merry Christmas
Reply:Tell them if they want to give something to you it can be a nice dinner or just their care for you
Reply:Some take that to mean that you don't want to give them anything. Also, you could be robbing them of their joy of shopping for you because they want to.
No one has to give me a gift but I will give a gift to whomever I love. I don't need their permission to make them a special person on my list.
Reply:Every year I go through the same thing and this year I did something a bit differently. I mailed (email, snail mail) and asked that instead of gifts that a small amount (20.00) or whatever be donated to United Way or from a small list of charities and orginaztion's that are non profit. I firmly stated that giving to those in need is giving me something for Christmas, pride knowing I am helping those who need it more than me. The animal shelter always needs something even if its not money and there are countless shelters and things that could use gift cards or food and have them donated in your name. Just a thought though.
Reply:Do what I did when the redhead asked me what I wanted:
"Give me a pumkin pie."
Don't need anything, don't really want anything. But a pumkin pie? I'd never turn down one of those.
Home made, not store bought!
Reply:They love you, tell them all you want are handmade things, or coupons for chores around the house they will do for you.
Reply:I think what you are really saying is "If you can't afford the things I really want I don't want anything." You of course can't say that, and you are a good guy for not saying it. Just let your loved ones do what they want. Get enjoyment of seeing their happy little faces as you smile and say "Its just what I wanted" Save your money and go get the expensive things yourself. Everybody is happy. HO HO HO Merry Christmas!!!!!!
Reply:They feel deprived of the good feeling one gets by giving to another. Perhaps you can suggest your family pools their money and donate it in your name to a favorite charity.
Reply:Personally, I think the whole premise of gift-giving during Christmas is stupid. Sure, get gifts for the kids and all, but adults do not need to swap gifts when they could be saving up to help some of our less fortunate fellow humans. Just another example of the extreme selfishness and ignorance of the Western World. But, in this scenario, there isn't really much you can do, as I'm sure your family will get you something *sigh*.
Reply:Put $3s into nice little envelopes. For those who insist on giving you a gift, give them one of those envelopes.
Reply:i don't know. I don't think you can control people or talk them out of giving you at least something. My mom doesn't have to give everyone littles gifts, but she continues to do so. Even $5 dollar gifts or gifts of 99 cents and or little knicknacks aren't much trouble for her.
...oh and i'm talking about not the immediate family here but far away relatives. So even if you tell them you don't want anything, they'll probably give you something so that you'll have something to open on X-mas. That's the way it was with our family.
Reply:I guess it is so rough for you that your family wants to inclkude you in their festivities
Reply:Tell them that you want Peace on Earth, Love in the Heart, and Happiness all the day through. If they can bottle that, send me some!
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What do you typically spend on your child for xmas gifts?
Im just curious as to what the average American spends per child. I usually spend around $400 for gifts for my daughter, and my husband usually freaks out.
What do you typically spend on your child for xmas gifts?
Our 1 "big" gift is usually in the 200-400 range, with about 100-200 more for other gifts.
Are kids spoiled today or what?? My parents probably spend 100 bucks on my whole Christmas! heheh
Reply:What?? That's alot of money! On our income, we would usually spend about $100 per child. We have two.
Reply:I would love to spend $400+ on my kids, but reality dictates something more along the lines of $150 this year. Some years its more and some its less.
What do you typically spend on your child for xmas gifts?
Our 1 "big" gift is usually in the 200-400 range, with about 100-200 more for other gifts.
Are kids spoiled today or what?? My parents probably spend 100 bucks on my whole Christmas! heheh
Reply:What?? That's alot of money! On our income, we would usually spend about $100 per child. We have two.
Reply:I would love to spend $400+ on my kids, but reality dictates something more along the lines of $150 this year. Some years its more and some its less.
Gifts for someone studying for the bar exam?
My husband's studying for the bar exam. I'd like to get him a gift (or several small gifts) while he's studying for the bar. Any suggestions? I'm thinking maybe things that will help him relax or have fun or something. Any suggestions would be great!!
Thanks!
Gifts for someone studying for the bar exam?
Massage. Or a visit to a hot-tub, or some other relaxing event. Those of us studying for the bar (me included) are under massive stress, and just the physical de-stress is a significant benefit.
If you're looking at tangible study aids, ask him. Everyone studies differently, and what helps one person study may not help another.
But the most important are humor and support. Reminding him to laugh, telling him how much you love him, even just a deep hug and a kiss every morning reminding him how proud you are of him, the little things that make each day better -- these are all priceless.
Reply:The Bar was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I don't know what it's like in your state now, but 10 years ago in Missouri, it was two days long -- 6 hours each day. It was all multiple choice on the first day and all essay on the second day. Then we had to wait months to find out if we passed.
Definitely get him gifts that emphasis relaxation. Massage, a nice dinner -- maybe an evening when you suprise him with wearing something romantic and doing all this favorite things in the bedroom. As for small gifts, how about a monte blanc pen to use during the Bar exam? Depending on his personality, maybe a tattoo? I got the scales of justice tattooed on my back when I graduated law school (I'm not the typical attorney, though).
Reply:cliff's notes. just kidding. Whether you golf or not I think those office putters are cute and a challenge. Accessories for the grill like a basket to grill fish, maybe a cute apron to go with it.
Some massage gel that heats up. A facial for men(which must be applied by a scantily clad wife. A gift card to your favorite restaurant. A gift card to the local spa for a foot and leg massage. Ooohhh I love those. Anyway, hope he does well, congrats to you both.
Thanks!
Gifts for someone studying for the bar exam?
Massage. Or a visit to a hot-tub, or some other relaxing event. Those of us studying for the bar (me included) are under massive stress, and just the physical de-stress is a significant benefit.
If you're looking at tangible study aids, ask him. Everyone studies differently, and what helps one person study may not help another.
But the most important are humor and support. Reminding him to laugh, telling him how much you love him, even just a deep hug and a kiss every morning reminding him how proud you are of him, the little things that make each day better -- these are all priceless.
Reply:The Bar was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I don't know what it's like in your state now, but 10 years ago in Missouri, it was two days long -- 6 hours each day. It was all multiple choice on the first day and all essay on the second day. Then we had to wait months to find out if we passed.
Definitely get him gifts that emphasis relaxation. Massage, a nice dinner -- maybe an evening when you suprise him with wearing something romantic and doing all this favorite things in the bedroom. As for small gifts, how about a monte blanc pen to use during the Bar exam? Depending on his personality, maybe a tattoo? I got the scales of justice tattooed on my back when I graduated law school (I'm not the typical attorney, though).
Reply:cliff's notes. just kidding. Whether you golf or not I think those office putters are cute and a challenge. Accessories for the grill like a basket to grill fish, maybe a cute apron to go with it.
Some massage gel that heats up. A facial for men(which must be applied by a scantily clad wife. A gift card to your favorite restaurant. A gift card to the local spa for a foot and leg massage. Ooohhh I love those. Anyway, hope he does well, congrats to you both.
Where can I get blank calendars for altered art Christmas gifts?
Looking for blank calendars to make Xmas gifts...
A UK online stockist
Chipboard or ringbound etc.
Maya Road do a blank chipboard one but cannot find a UK stockist?!
Where can I get blank calendars for altered art Christmas gifts?
There are quite a few online stockists in the UK of the Maya Road product line - have you contacted them? I know that our local online store will order items in for you which they don't currently have in their online store. Here are some links which may be of use...
http://www.artymiss.co.uk/acatalog/Card_...
http://www.papermaze.co.uk/customer/home...
http://scrapz.co.uk/catalog/index.php?ma...
If you are wanting to purchase online then the other option is not to limit yourself to UK stores - and look further afield.
Here are some stockists of the Maya Road calendars...
http://www.scrapbooksavvy.com.au/store/i...
http://www.scrapgal.com/product_info.php...
http://www.scrapapple.com.au/categories....
Here are some other chipboard calendar stockists...
http://store.scrapbook-elements.com/inde...
http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/freestyl...
This is my personal favourite...
http://www.artbasehornchurch.com/acatalo...
Happy scrapping,
mum2MH
Reply:have you asked at hobby crafts or looked on ebay
Reply:Personal Impressions are supplying some Maya Road items to the craft trade. Look on the website www.richstamp.co.uk then click on craft then new products. In the scroll down menu on the left you will find the Maya Road products they have stocked since April this year. You could try the contact option to ask if they will be supplying calendars. They also have a list of their stockists to find one in your area.
Southfield do a couple of hobby calendars. Their range of A4 card packs are sold at a lot of stationery shops in the UK so you should be able to find a stockist near you. They are only year at a glance rather than monthly calendars and are printed on 225 g/m2 high white card - not very thick. They are mainly intended just to stick a photograph on but you could scrap it and they are very inexpensive. The top of one is a blank rectangle while the other is divided vertically to give a long blank strip.
Reply:just go onto publisher. i make all my calenders on it and put in personal photos
Reply:The Paper Mill shop...think they are £2.99
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A UK online stockist
Chipboard or ringbound etc.
Maya Road do a blank chipboard one but cannot find a UK stockist?!
Where can I get blank calendars for altered art Christmas gifts?
There are quite a few online stockists in the UK of the Maya Road product line - have you contacted them? I know that our local online store will order items in for you which they don't currently have in their online store. Here are some links which may be of use...
http://www.artymiss.co.uk/acatalog/Card_...
http://www.papermaze.co.uk/customer/home...
http://scrapz.co.uk/catalog/index.php?ma...
If you are wanting to purchase online then the other option is not to limit yourself to UK stores - and look further afield.
Here are some stockists of the Maya Road calendars...
http://www.scrapbooksavvy.com.au/store/i...
http://www.scrapgal.com/product_info.php...
http://www.scrapapple.com.au/categories....
Here are some other chipboard calendar stockists...
http://store.scrapbook-elements.com/inde...
http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/freestyl...
This is my personal favourite...
http://www.artbasehornchurch.com/acatalo...
Happy scrapping,
mum2MH
Reply:have you asked at hobby crafts or looked on ebay
Reply:Personal Impressions are supplying some Maya Road items to the craft trade. Look on the website www.richstamp.co.uk then click on craft then new products. In the scroll down menu on the left you will find the Maya Road products they have stocked since April this year. You could try the contact option to ask if they will be supplying calendars. They also have a list of their stockists to find one in your area.
Southfield do a couple of hobby calendars. Their range of A4 card packs are sold at a lot of stationery shops in the UK so you should be able to find a stockist near you. They are only year at a glance rather than monthly calendars and are printed on 225 g/m2 high white card - not very thick. They are mainly intended just to stick a photograph on but you could scrap it and they are very inexpensive. The top of one is a blank rectangle while the other is divided vertically to give a long blank strip.
Reply:just go onto publisher. i make all my calenders on it and put in personal photos
Reply:The Paper Mill shop...think they are £2.99
Reply:www.geocities.com/freexmaspics
Can I take gifts to Brazil without having to pay taxes at customs?
I am bringing alot of gifts for my girlfriend. I heard that they may try to force me to pay taxes on certain items.
Can I take gifts to Brazil without having to pay taxes at customs?
They really target electronics more than anything, so if you are planning on bringing a camera, a computer, and other things like that beware that you really may end up paying taxes. Now if it is for you personal use, not brand new, you might get away with it by saying that it is for personal use while you are in Brazil and that you will be taking it back with you. There is a US$500 for gifts that are tax exempt. So if you bring withing this range you will not have to pay taxes. (be ready to prove values with receipts)
http://www.brazilian-consulate.org/files...
Reply:make sure you have the bills...over $300.00you have to pay taxes on eletronics!
Reply:hallo,
here are the customs requirements for you
Imports Required to Declare at customs:
-Animals, plants, food, weapons, ammunition and some types of medicines (controlled substances);
-Goods which exceed the amount of $500,00;
-Money in excess of US$10,000.00 (in cash, checks or travelers checks) or the equivalent in any other foreign denomination.
Reply:it depends on what you are bringing in ....certain items always have duty on them. check with the customs regulations of the country to see what you are allowed to bring in
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Can I take gifts to Brazil without having to pay taxes at customs?
They really target electronics more than anything, so if you are planning on bringing a camera, a computer, and other things like that beware that you really may end up paying taxes. Now if it is for you personal use, not brand new, you might get away with it by saying that it is for personal use while you are in Brazil and that you will be taking it back with you. There is a US$500 for gifts that are tax exempt. So if you bring withing this range you will not have to pay taxes. (be ready to prove values with receipts)
http://www.brazilian-consulate.org/files...
Reply:make sure you have the bills...over $300.00you have to pay taxes on eletronics!
Reply:hallo,
here are the customs requirements for you
Imports Required to Declare at customs:
-Animals, plants, food, weapons, ammunition and some types of medicines (controlled substances);
-Goods which exceed the amount of $500,00;
-Money in excess of US$10,000.00 (in cash, checks or travelers checks) or the equivalent in any other foreign denomination.
Reply:it depends on what you are bringing in ....certain items always have duty on them. check with the customs regulations of the country to see what you are allowed to bring in
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How many chistmas gifts should I get each child. I have a daughter 10 and a son 4?
Is 5 gifts each to many or to less?
How many chistmas gifts should I get each child. I have a daughter 10 and a son 4?
Hi, When our daughters were growing up we would do one big present from us plus another big present came from Santa. With that and the stocking stuff, it would be lots. I know that this was the norm for all their friends as well. I have a bunch of nieces and nephews and this is what their parents do as well.
Reply:It depends on what you can afford. While I was growing up my parents got my sis, bro and me prob like 10 gifts each. 8 of them however were smaller things like coloring books or small toys or something like that. Then 2 of them were big things from Santa (when we got older one gift was from "mommy clause" and the other was from "daddy clause" and thats how it still is lol) But you do want to keep it some what even. Now if you plan on getting all big gifts then 5 is fine.
Reply:For most parents it's not the number of gifts per child but the total cost per child that decides.
Figure out what you can afford and what you want to spend for gifts and compare that to what the kids want (your 10yo no doubt has a list), get as many of the most-wanted things as you can with the budget you have.
Typically older gets get a little higher budget than younger ones, because their gifts typically cost more and they are more into consumption.
That's the way I see most parents do it, right or wrong.
Reply:I think it just depends on yoru budget and what other gifts your getting them. If you buy your 10 year old the newest gaming system on the market, well you've spent about $300 just on that. You might want to limit other gifts to a game for the system, and some other small stocking stuffers. However, if you're planning on spending the same amount of money on each of them, you don't want a massive pile of presents for the 4 year old and only 1 or 2 packages for the 10 year old.
If all of their gifts equal out to the same amount of money, I think somewhere between 5 and 10 presents plus some small stocking stuffers is totally appropriate.
Reply:I dont understand this. I have always gotten way more than five gifts. Actually more than 20, maybe more than 30. I was not rich either. People in my area buy more than others I guess. Anyway, in my opinion now, when I do have children, I will not buy as many gifts as that because I would rather celebrate the birth of Christ than Santa(even though Christ wasn't actually born that day).
Reply:Depends on how much you can afford to spend or what things they need. 5 sounds about right :) Little kids love opening them thats the best part
Reply:It does really depend on your budget, and your preferences...
I have a 10yr old daughter, and a 12yr old son...we have always bought them the exact same amount of gifts (10), and spent the same amount. (Atleast try to spend the same amount)
Try to get the things they are asking for, and they won't concentrate on how many gifts they got...they will be so happy that they are getting what they asked for...
Reply:We always buy way more than 5 gifts for our little girl. She just turned 3 and we are done with shopping for her and she has too many gifts to count.
Reply:That is completely up to you, and what you can afford. My child is getting more than that, but not everything costs a whole lot of money either. I am sure that your children will be happy with whatever Santa brings them. Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Reply:Just don't go overboard or they'll come to expect it every year. Also, they may become spoiled at Christmas and not appreciate each gift. Like another person said, it depends largely on your budget as well. It's just better to start small - you can always increase the number in upcoming years.
Reply:Depends on how much you have to spend. If you have more buy more. Buy as many as you can for the little angels. We only have a limited time with them. So spoil the heck out ot them while you can!
Reply:yeah equal amount because children will get mad and get whiny about how many presents they have. so yeah 5 is about enough 5 presents each. and plus your children would get more from their aunts,uncles,cousins,grandparents.
Reply:It depends financially. Just make sure that you show that you love your children both the same and that no matter what, they have the best mom in the world.
Reply:I say go with what you can afford, but I do think five is plenty.
Reply:Wow you sound like me my daughter is 14 and my son is 3 but I get anywhere between 4 and 5 gifts , I usually set a dollar amount that I don't go over.
Reply:we buy 10 gifts for each child but we have a set budget also for all 3 of them! we also donate 10 of there old toys to kids in need!
Reply:5 is plenty as long as they are inexpensive (under $15 each).
Reply:i think 5 is too mucxh but the more the better i guess, i would just give them like two or three.
Reply:It all depends on how much you have to spend. I have always found with my 3 children that the simple little in-expensive things they play and enjoy the most. Sometimes i get frustrated because the really expensive thing they put to the side and the little cheap one they play with. They have these really cool PDA things you can buy for about $25 that your 10years old can communicate with her friends. It usually comes in a set. The 4 year old son should be pretty simple and easy to please. Again, it depends on budget.
Reply:Well don't overwhelm them or they wont' know what to play with first, and just not have any fun at all.
I gave our kids one nice present each. Santa would give them one nice one together. I had 2 girls close enough in age to appreciate a blackboard or a playhouse they could share.
Reply:Good question. I wonder if what I got my son this year is enough. His birthday falls in early Dec. (He just turned four on Sunday!) so Dec. is BIG gift getting month for him! He really gets overwhelmed. Especially since my husband has a pretty large family and his parents are divorced, so my son has FOUR Christmas's (one at his great-grandparents and his paternal grandfather, one at his paternal grandmothers and step-grandfather, one at my parents, and of course the big one at our house) We are by no means rich (lol at just the thought:) but even if everyone gets him one thing- he's made out like a bandit! It's often way to much and we donate to toys for tots and such. SO, I get him very min. at our house. I grew up with one "big" thing and several smaller things and I keep this tradition with my son. This year he gets a tractor, rollerskates, a sleeping bag, starwars fighter thing, colorwonder paints and paper, and some cool flashlights for his stocking. I'm thinking of getting Pirates II as a joint gift for my son and husband (two birds with one stone right?) THIS BECAME WAY TO LONG- FIVE GIFTS EACH IS PLENTY, Esp. since they share toys anyway:) MERRY CHRISTMAS!
How many chistmas gifts should I get each child. I have a daughter 10 and a son 4?
Hi, When our daughters were growing up we would do one big present from us plus another big present came from Santa. With that and the stocking stuff, it would be lots. I know that this was the norm for all their friends as well. I have a bunch of nieces and nephews and this is what their parents do as well.
Reply:It depends on what you can afford. While I was growing up my parents got my sis, bro and me prob like 10 gifts each. 8 of them however were smaller things like coloring books or small toys or something like that. Then 2 of them were big things from Santa (when we got older one gift was from "mommy clause" and the other was from "daddy clause" and thats how it still is lol) But you do want to keep it some what even. Now if you plan on getting all big gifts then 5 is fine.
Reply:For most parents it's not the number of gifts per child but the total cost per child that decides.
Figure out what you can afford and what you want to spend for gifts and compare that to what the kids want (your 10yo no doubt has a list), get as many of the most-wanted things as you can with the budget you have.
Typically older gets get a little higher budget than younger ones, because their gifts typically cost more and they are more into consumption.
That's the way I see most parents do it, right or wrong.
Reply:I think it just depends on yoru budget and what other gifts your getting them. If you buy your 10 year old the newest gaming system on the market, well you've spent about $300 just on that. You might want to limit other gifts to a game for the system, and some other small stocking stuffers. However, if you're planning on spending the same amount of money on each of them, you don't want a massive pile of presents for the 4 year old and only 1 or 2 packages for the 10 year old.
If all of their gifts equal out to the same amount of money, I think somewhere between 5 and 10 presents plus some small stocking stuffers is totally appropriate.
Reply:I dont understand this. I have always gotten way more than five gifts. Actually more than 20, maybe more than 30. I was not rich either. People in my area buy more than others I guess. Anyway, in my opinion now, when I do have children, I will not buy as many gifts as that because I would rather celebrate the birth of Christ than Santa(even though Christ wasn't actually born that day).
Reply:Depends on how much you can afford to spend or what things they need. 5 sounds about right :) Little kids love opening them thats the best part
Reply:It does really depend on your budget, and your preferences...
I have a 10yr old daughter, and a 12yr old son...we have always bought them the exact same amount of gifts (10), and spent the same amount. (Atleast try to spend the same amount)
Try to get the things they are asking for, and they won't concentrate on how many gifts they got...they will be so happy that they are getting what they asked for...
Reply:We always buy way more than 5 gifts for our little girl. She just turned 3 and we are done with shopping for her and she has too many gifts to count.
Reply:That is completely up to you, and what you can afford. My child is getting more than that, but not everything costs a whole lot of money either. I am sure that your children will be happy with whatever Santa brings them. Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Reply:Just don't go overboard or they'll come to expect it every year. Also, they may become spoiled at Christmas and not appreciate each gift. Like another person said, it depends largely on your budget as well. It's just better to start small - you can always increase the number in upcoming years.
Reply:Depends on how much you have to spend. If you have more buy more. Buy as many as you can for the little angels. We only have a limited time with them. So spoil the heck out ot them while you can!
Reply:yeah equal amount because children will get mad and get whiny about how many presents they have. so yeah 5 is about enough 5 presents each. and plus your children would get more from their aunts,uncles,cousins,grandparents.
Reply:It depends financially. Just make sure that you show that you love your children both the same and that no matter what, they have the best mom in the world.
Reply:I say go with what you can afford, but I do think five is plenty.
Reply:Wow you sound like me my daughter is 14 and my son is 3 but I get anywhere between 4 and 5 gifts , I usually set a dollar amount that I don't go over.
Reply:we buy 10 gifts for each child but we have a set budget also for all 3 of them! we also donate 10 of there old toys to kids in need!
Reply:5 is plenty as long as they are inexpensive (under $15 each).
Reply:i think 5 is too mucxh but the more the better i guess, i would just give them like two or three.
Reply:It all depends on how much you have to spend. I have always found with my 3 children that the simple little in-expensive things they play and enjoy the most. Sometimes i get frustrated because the really expensive thing they put to the side and the little cheap one they play with. They have these really cool PDA things you can buy for about $25 that your 10years old can communicate with her friends. It usually comes in a set. The 4 year old son should be pretty simple and easy to please. Again, it depends on budget.
Reply:Well don't overwhelm them or they wont' know what to play with first, and just not have any fun at all.
I gave our kids one nice present each. Santa would give them one nice one together. I had 2 girls close enough in age to appreciate a blackboard or a playhouse they could share.
Reply:Good question. I wonder if what I got my son this year is enough. His birthday falls in early Dec. (He just turned four on Sunday!) so Dec. is BIG gift getting month for him! He really gets overwhelmed. Especially since my husband has a pretty large family and his parents are divorced, so my son has FOUR Christmas's (one at his great-grandparents and his paternal grandfather, one at his paternal grandmothers and step-grandfather, one at my parents, and of course the big one at our house) We are by no means rich (lol at just the thought:) but even if everyone gets him one thing- he's made out like a bandit! It's often way to much and we donate to toys for tots and such. SO, I get him very min. at our house. I grew up with one "big" thing and several smaller things and I keep this tradition with my son. This year he gets a tractor, rollerskates, a sleeping bag, starwars fighter thing, colorwonder paints and paper, and some cool flashlights for his stocking. I'm thinking of getting Pirates II as a joint gift for my son and husband (two birds with one stone right?) THIS BECAME WAY TO LONG- FIVE GIFTS EACH IS PLENTY, Esp. since they share toys anyway:) MERRY CHRISTMAS!
What are some gifts I can bring back from Paris?
I'm going to Paris and want to bring back a few small gifts for my friends (girls). What should I bring back? Chocolates? Something around $20 or under.
What are some gifts I can bring back from Paris?
Bring back something original and distinctly Parisian. I live in Paris and can honestly tell you that it doesn't snow much here so a snow globe isn't really representative of Paris. Nor is the Eiffel Tower; most Parisian residents don't care much for the Eiffel tower - whilst it's a dominating landmark, it's not half as impressive a structure as the Arc de Triomphe, the Louvre, Musée d'Orsay or l'Hopital des Invalides.
If you want to get something original from Paris and you don't want to pay through the nose for it then just pick up an Edith Piaf record from a street vendor on the Quais des Grands Augustins (Rive Gauche) or buy her a bottle of 1999 Chateau neuf du Pape which will set you back around 20 euros here but back in the US you'd have to pay a fortune for it.
If your girl's into Hip Hop then get her some music from the Parisian suburbs - Sonik is awesome and you can never go wrong with MC Solar; you can buy the albums in FNAC or Virgin Megastore on the Champs Elysées for around 15€.
The French presidential elections are this year and the French absolutely love their comics. There's a new comic recently released about one of the presidential candidates (in my opinion the one who will become president) and it's called La Face Karchee de Sarkozy. It's a very interesting story, pretty funny, full of references to France's relationships with the US and the UK and is particularly topical in Paris at the moment. Why not get this for someone and open their eyes to the wonderful world of right wing European politics!
Reply:Model Eiffel towers, or snowglobes. :)
Reply:a friend of mine both a little can that said "air of Paris"
it´s funny and very original
Reply:For my girlfriends, I brought back little mirrors. They were square-shaped and had various covers of popular Paris landmarks - about 8 euros each in any souvenir shop. I also got a set of pretty coasters for married friends of mine w/ different landmarks.
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What are some gifts I can bring back from Paris?
Bring back something original and distinctly Parisian. I live in Paris and can honestly tell you that it doesn't snow much here so a snow globe isn't really representative of Paris. Nor is the Eiffel Tower; most Parisian residents don't care much for the Eiffel tower - whilst it's a dominating landmark, it's not half as impressive a structure as the Arc de Triomphe, the Louvre, Musée d'Orsay or l'Hopital des Invalides.
If you want to get something original from Paris and you don't want to pay through the nose for it then just pick up an Edith Piaf record from a street vendor on the Quais des Grands Augustins (Rive Gauche) or buy her a bottle of 1999 Chateau neuf du Pape which will set you back around 20 euros here but back in the US you'd have to pay a fortune for it.
If your girl's into Hip Hop then get her some music from the Parisian suburbs - Sonik is awesome and you can never go wrong with MC Solar; you can buy the albums in FNAC or Virgin Megastore on the Champs Elysées for around 15€.
The French presidential elections are this year and the French absolutely love their comics. There's a new comic recently released about one of the presidential candidates (in my opinion the one who will become president) and it's called La Face Karchee de Sarkozy. It's a very interesting story, pretty funny, full of references to France's relationships with the US and the UK and is particularly topical in Paris at the moment. Why not get this for someone and open their eyes to the wonderful world of right wing European politics!
Reply:Model Eiffel towers, or snowglobes. :)
Reply:a friend of mine both a little can that said "air of Paris"
it´s funny and very original
Reply:For my girlfriends, I brought back little mirrors. They were square-shaped and had various covers of popular Paris landmarks - about 8 euros each in any souvenir shop. I also got a set of pretty coasters for married friends of mine w/ different landmarks.
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What kind of gifts do people give at your wedding?
I am getting married in August. I am expecting about 150 people. I am so excited. What kind of gifts did everyone get? I hope I get money because this wedding is draining my pockets! I am not registering because I already have tons of household stuff. Is that ok to not register?
What kind of gifts do people give at your wedding?
We put poem in with our invitations basically saying that we have everything we need and would like money so we can do things together (travel) with it. We also did a small gift registry because some people prefer to give a present. in the end 95% of guests gave us money.
Reply:I think it's fine not to register. Heck, we did and hardly anyone even has gotten anything off of it. (We are getting married in less than 2 weeks, so I'm referring to the showers) Anyways, I think the majority of people give money...I know that's what I do!
Reply:when my best fren got married she had tons n tons of bouquets ..she was like "what the hell am i gonna do with that .. open a bouquet shop ?"
i got her an expensive perfume.. other than that she got some of the silver ornamets
(i m not married yet )
Reply:At Malaysia, most of ppl are so streotype, they follow Chinese culture. Most of us like to give money.
Other gift are clock ( hahaha i dunno why they like to give clock ), set of crockery...
Reply:you'll probably get money then if you didnt register, i think registering is so tacky and rude. we didnt register and everyone gave us money but we used the money to buy a computer and a new bedroom set and a little trip. Dont use your wedding money to pay off debt either, i think that is tacky too. oh and congratulations!
Reply:money is always great
Reply:What ever they want unless you say different.Put up a money tree in front of the reception. Le this better not be you.
Reply:Most people will give you cash.. but you are doing yourself a diservice by not regestering.. You will leave yourself open to all kinds of gifts... and have zero clue where to return them to if you do not want them! :)
What kind of gifts do people give at your wedding?
We put poem in with our invitations basically saying that we have everything we need and would like money so we can do things together (travel) with it. We also did a small gift registry because some people prefer to give a present. in the end 95% of guests gave us money.
Reply:I think it's fine not to register. Heck, we did and hardly anyone even has gotten anything off of it. (We are getting married in less than 2 weeks, so I'm referring to the showers) Anyways, I think the majority of people give money...I know that's what I do!
Reply:when my best fren got married she had tons n tons of bouquets ..she was like "what the hell am i gonna do with that .. open a bouquet shop ?"
i got her an expensive perfume.. other than that she got some of the silver ornamets
(i m not married yet )
Reply:At Malaysia, most of ppl are so streotype, they follow Chinese culture. Most of us like to give money.
Other gift are clock ( hahaha i dunno why they like to give clock ), set of crockery...
Reply:you'll probably get money then if you didnt register, i think registering is so tacky and rude. we didnt register and everyone gave us money but we used the money to buy a computer and a new bedroom set and a little trip. Dont use your wedding money to pay off debt either, i think that is tacky too. oh and congratulations!
Reply:money is always great
Reply:What ever they want unless you say different.Put up a money tree in front of the reception. Le this better not be you.
Reply:Most people will give you cash.. but you are doing yourself a diservice by not regestering.. You will leave yourself open to all kinds of gifts... and have zero clue where to return them to if you do not want them! :)
How do I request charitable donations instead of gifts for my 4-year-old's birthday?
She doesn't need more toys, and my experience with friends of mine who've requested that people NOT bring gifts has been ignored by well-meaning guests.
We've decided that instead of saying "no gifts" to politely say "if gifts, please give a donation to XX, a local children's cancer charity." How do I write this politely on the invitations without it coming across like an expectation?
How do I request charitable donations instead of gifts for my 4-year-old's birthday?
Word it in a way that's funny but serious at the same time....try something like:
Please join us in supporting the local children's cancer charity fund by giving a gift in (your child's) name to (name of the fund). Help us find a cure for cancer!
That way people know that you support the fund too and you're not asking them to donate AND give your child a gift.
Regardless of what you want people to do, there are bound to be some people who will insist on bring a present though so don't be shocked.
Happy birthday wishes to your little girl!
Reply:How about this... "gifts to be donated to xxx charity" so they know what they are getting into.
Have a box at the door so your child never even sees the toys.
Reply:Put on the invite. We ask that all gift go to this charity as we are blessed and would like to share our blessings with others in need.
Reply:it's a birthaday party the only bit of it children undestand is presents, why take that away from them. What I usually do is clean out the toys that are not being played with and donate them to my daycare center thery always need updated toys.
Reply:Well, it's a touchy thing, because proper etiquette on your part does not assume a gift on your guests part.
Perhaps you can say "In addition to celebrating Sally's 4th birthday with the joy being with friends bring, we are going to make a donation to The Cancer Charity in Sally's name. If you were thinking of bringing a present along with your presence, won't you please consider doing so in the form of a similar donation."
In addition, rather than telling people how to do gift giving, the etiquette problems of which are rather formidable, you might just talk with your daughter in advance how you will donate the toys she receives to a charity. That could be just between you and her and the guests needn't know at all.
--Just saw a sample invite on line that said, "In the spirit of giving, any gifts will be donated to xxxx charity.' I frankly think that's kinda rude. But, for all the parties we go to, we know and love the kids and enjoy getting gifts tailored to their interests. Our gifts are always a big hit with the kids, so I really have mixed feelings about stopping people from giving gifts.
Is the problem actually too many people who aren't really close to the kids being invited to the parties?
Reply:It's your daughter's 4th birthday!!!! Let them bring her gifts. Your daughter isn't going to care about giving to a charity right now all she's going to care about is having a good time at her birthday party and I think that for a child's birthday they should get gifts.
Reply:I would write something like "(your 4 year-old's name) would love it if all party-goers would contribute a birthday monetary donation to _____________________. This gift is the true gift for his/her birthday.
Reply:I think your intention is well meaning, but it's a hard thing to ask people to spend their money in a specific way.
Also, part of the birthday party thing is for the guests - especially at this age they are learning how to give graciously, and the lesson is much harder to learn when the gift isn't something they can put their hands on. And are you sure that your child is OK with the idea that they will have a party and not get any gifts? Especially if she's experienced other parties recently, your daugher may have expectations that her party will be similar to the ones she's attended - gifts and all.
I think it would be OK to say "please no gifts" on the invite. You can also spread the word (but not put on the invitation) that if someone feels they must give a gift, you'd appreciate more "creative" gifts like a promise of a special play date or a handmade gift.
Another way to limit the gift giving is to limit the guest list. One guideline I've seen suggested is to invite the same number of friends as the age of the birthday kid. I know it's not always easy to keep to those exact numbers, but it would probably be a better time for all if the number was kept low....
But asking for charitible donations for a little kid's birthday is a harder sell.
Good Luck!
Reply:I think all 4 yr olds have more toys than they need. I agree with other comments. Clean out toys and give to charity. The best part of a 4 yr old party is the opening of gifts not the gifts themselves. I know I would have been devastated if I had no gifts to open at my party.
Reply:Honestly, I would not ask for donations in lieu of presents for your child. I had a friend who did this and several of my friends and I not only felt obligated to bring a donation, but also bring her daughter a gift. Yes, she too stated no gifts, but most people feel funny coming empty handed. Ultimately, the decision is yours, but I am just telling you what my experience was like in this situtation.
Reply:This is tough and I know exactly what you are going through. I have two girls that are spoiled rotten by well meaning family. I struggled a lot with what I was going to do this year when my six year old had her first friend party. The thought of more toys was killing me. But those first toys from friends are very special. I would let the kids bring toys for her. Most likely the parents won't spend a ton of money and it will be a simple gift. Before the party tell your daughter that she is getting so many new presents that she should give some of her old things away to kids that don't have any toys. Have her help you pick out some things to give to charity that she is done with and have her go with you to drop it off. We do this at birthdays and Christmas. I also go around after they are sleeping and do my own clean-out session of things I haven't seen them touch or they have outgrown. Your daughter won't pick out a bunch to get rid of, but it starts a good life lesson for her early on about being giving. Trust me it works like a charm. Because of my parents being divorced and re-married we have five sets of great grandparents (still living) and four sets of grandparents! My house is the unofficial Toys R Us! I feel your pain!
Reply:What you could do is either go through her current toys and give away those that are not being played with, or put on the invitation that all gifts will be donated to a womans shelter or a kids hospital.
What you want to do sounds like a good idea, but how to do you explain to a 4 year old that the gifts are for someone else, its their birthday but you can't keep your presents. I suggest to go through her used toys and give unused ones away. Or even better, put on the invitation...please no toys...clothes (size) or educational things only. That way the child can enjoy the party and open presents that are for her.
Reply:Basically, you can't. At least not without sounding tacky or pushy. And guests are still going to show up with gifts. It is poor etiquette to tell the guests how to spend their money. You can spread by word of mouth, but I certainly wouldn't put it on the invitation.
Reply:Tacky and very bad taste. Return gifts with receipts and give it to charity yourself. For gifts with no receipts that your child doesn't show any interest in, save them for "Toys for Tots" box at Christmas. Otherwise, just be happy that people are generous.
We've decided that instead of saying "no gifts" to politely say "if gifts, please give a donation to XX, a local children's cancer charity." How do I write this politely on the invitations without it coming across like an expectation?
How do I request charitable donations instead of gifts for my 4-year-old's birthday?
Word it in a way that's funny but serious at the same time....try something like:
Please join us in supporting the local children's cancer charity fund by giving a gift in (your child's) name to (name of the fund). Help us find a cure for cancer!
That way people know that you support the fund too and you're not asking them to donate AND give your child a gift.
Regardless of what you want people to do, there are bound to be some people who will insist on bring a present though so don't be shocked.
Happy birthday wishes to your little girl!
Reply:How about this... "gifts to be donated to xxx charity" so they know what they are getting into.
Have a box at the door so your child never even sees the toys.
Reply:Put on the invite. We ask that all gift go to this charity as we are blessed and would like to share our blessings with others in need.
Reply:it's a birthaday party the only bit of it children undestand is presents, why take that away from them. What I usually do is clean out the toys that are not being played with and donate them to my daycare center thery always need updated toys.
Reply:Well, it's a touchy thing, because proper etiquette on your part does not assume a gift on your guests part.
Perhaps you can say "In addition to celebrating Sally's 4th birthday with the joy being with friends bring, we are going to make a donation to The Cancer Charity in Sally's name. If you were thinking of bringing a present along with your presence, won't you please consider doing so in the form of a similar donation."
In addition, rather than telling people how to do gift giving, the etiquette problems of which are rather formidable, you might just talk with your daughter in advance how you will donate the toys she receives to a charity. That could be just between you and her and the guests needn't know at all.
--Just saw a sample invite on line that said, "In the spirit of giving, any gifts will be donated to xxxx charity.' I frankly think that's kinda rude. But, for all the parties we go to, we know and love the kids and enjoy getting gifts tailored to their interests. Our gifts are always a big hit with the kids, so I really have mixed feelings about stopping people from giving gifts.
Is the problem actually too many people who aren't really close to the kids being invited to the parties?
Reply:It's your daughter's 4th birthday!!!! Let them bring her gifts. Your daughter isn't going to care about giving to a charity right now all she's going to care about is having a good time at her birthday party and I think that for a child's birthday they should get gifts.
Reply:I would write something like "(your 4 year-old's name) would love it if all party-goers would contribute a birthday monetary donation to _____________________. This gift is the true gift for his/her birthday.
Reply:I think your intention is well meaning, but it's a hard thing to ask people to spend their money in a specific way.
Also, part of the birthday party thing is for the guests - especially at this age they are learning how to give graciously, and the lesson is much harder to learn when the gift isn't something they can put their hands on. And are you sure that your child is OK with the idea that they will have a party and not get any gifts? Especially if she's experienced other parties recently, your daugher may have expectations that her party will be similar to the ones she's attended - gifts and all.
I think it would be OK to say "please no gifts" on the invite. You can also spread the word (but not put on the invitation) that if someone feels they must give a gift, you'd appreciate more "creative" gifts like a promise of a special play date or a handmade gift.
Another way to limit the gift giving is to limit the guest list. One guideline I've seen suggested is to invite the same number of friends as the age of the birthday kid. I know it's not always easy to keep to those exact numbers, but it would probably be a better time for all if the number was kept low....
But asking for charitible donations for a little kid's birthday is a harder sell.
Good Luck!
Reply:I think all 4 yr olds have more toys than they need. I agree with other comments. Clean out toys and give to charity. The best part of a 4 yr old party is the opening of gifts not the gifts themselves. I know I would have been devastated if I had no gifts to open at my party.
Reply:Honestly, I would not ask for donations in lieu of presents for your child. I had a friend who did this and several of my friends and I not only felt obligated to bring a donation, but also bring her daughter a gift. Yes, she too stated no gifts, but most people feel funny coming empty handed. Ultimately, the decision is yours, but I am just telling you what my experience was like in this situtation.
Reply:This is tough and I know exactly what you are going through. I have two girls that are spoiled rotten by well meaning family. I struggled a lot with what I was going to do this year when my six year old had her first friend party. The thought of more toys was killing me. But those first toys from friends are very special. I would let the kids bring toys for her. Most likely the parents won't spend a ton of money and it will be a simple gift. Before the party tell your daughter that she is getting so many new presents that she should give some of her old things away to kids that don't have any toys. Have her help you pick out some things to give to charity that she is done with and have her go with you to drop it off. We do this at birthdays and Christmas. I also go around after they are sleeping and do my own clean-out session of things I haven't seen them touch or they have outgrown. Your daughter won't pick out a bunch to get rid of, but it starts a good life lesson for her early on about being giving. Trust me it works like a charm. Because of my parents being divorced and re-married we have five sets of great grandparents (still living) and four sets of grandparents! My house is the unofficial Toys R Us! I feel your pain!
Reply:What you could do is either go through her current toys and give away those that are not being played with, or put on the invitation that all gifts will be donated to a womans shelter or a kids hospital.
What you want to do sounds like a good idea, but how to do you explain to a 4 year old that the gifts are for someone else, its their birthday but you can't keep your presents. I suggest to go through her used toys and give unused ones away. Or even better, put on the invitation...please no toys...clothes (size) or educational things only. That way the child can enjoy the party and open presents that are for her.
Reply:Basically, you can't. At least not without sounding tacky or pushy. And guests are still going to show up with gifts. It is poor etiquette to tell the guests how to spend their money. You can spread by word of mouth, but I certainly wouldn't put it on the invitation.
Reply:Tacky and very bad taste. Return gifts with receipts and give it to charity yourself. For gifts with no receipts that your child doesn't show any interest in, save them for "Toys for Tots" box at Christmas. Otherwise, just be happy that people are generous.
What do you think about people counting and complaining about their wedding gifts?
The day after their wedding, my brother and his new wife sat down and went through all their wedding gifts/cards and compared them with the guest list.
They basically made note of what everyone gave (for thank you cards).
Since then, they have been talking to us (immediate family: me, my sis, dad, mom, etc.) and complaining about supposedly "cheap people" who didn't give them a gift or who gave only $50, (our cousin, for example) etc.
What do you think about that? Is that kind of behavior normal, acceptable and generally expected, or is that totally ridiculous and rude? Something in between?
Thanks!
What do you think about people counting and complaining about their wedding gifts?
Totally ridiculous and rude. This is extremely uncouth behavior, and if they want to discuss this, they should keep it to themselves.
While it is customary for an invited guest to give a gift, it is by no means obligatory. There are some commonly accepted etiquette guidelines for gift giving, but that is another topic.
Reply:Whoa, this is exactly what my sis-in-law and brother did. She complained about how cheap some friends are and how they should be giving more because they are rich. Rich or not, they have no right to complain especially to anymone other than between themselves. I found it very off-putting. Report It
Reply:I think it is totally sad. When me and my fella got married, we didn't do a gift list at all. In fact, the best gift folks could bestow upon us was their presence on our special day and their happiest wishes for our future together!
Reply:I think that they are very ungrateful. WOW did they at least send a thank you note to EVERYONE that got them a gift? Materialism is the word that comes to mind.
Reply:That is just rude unacceptable behavior. I think they are being ungreatful. They are not appreciating what they got. At least they should be glad that they got something and people at their wedding.
Reply:I think it is ridiculous and rude. It is not the guests' choice of whether or not the wedding would be expensive. When I was planning for my wedding I knew that I couldn't depend on the gifts from the guests to help pay off the wedding. I accepted whatever they gave to me with no complain whatsoever. The guests took the time from their daily schedule to attend the wedding. They also took the time to pick the gifts. $50.00 is a good amount to me.
Reply:That is terrible.
Reply:The gifts ANY couple receive should be a private matter-not discussed with anybody else. And further more, when did a wedding invitation specify that $xxxx should be spent on a gift? Shouldn't a gift be given out of someone's heart and not of what's in your pocketbook? Obligation to give me a gift so yo ucan witness my day?
I was quite thankful for the friends %26amp; family who shared our day with us. That was gift enough for us! We received an array of gifts and monetary gifts that fit the budgets of our guests-but that was a secondary issue! In fact, it took us 3 days to get around to opening envelopes. We had family in town and it was more important to spend the few days with them.
I agree that someone said that weddings are getting ridiculous lately. It always seems to be a 'one ups-manship' on who gets bigger or better gifts. Shame on your brother and his wife. I hope you told them how rude they were being. They don;t deserve anything!
Reply:They should be taken out back and shot.
Reply:Edited to add: Yes, they have a point about the standard protocol for wedding gifts ~ if someone says 'how much should I spend' the standard answer is 'the cost of your meal (usually about $50)'. BUT, that is for people who wish to follow the protocol and who can afford to do so ... It still remains that a gift is a gift, and sometimes it takes generosity to receive as well as to give :-)
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Weddings are getting so out of hand. People spend such huge amounts on the wedding, and then feel cheated if their guests don't come up with a gift which is expensive enough to impress them.
I'm sorry, in my own view, your brother and his wife are being very rude and inconsiderate.
Did they get married for their future or for the gifts?
While it is true that some people are cheapskates when it comes to giving, so what? No-one has the right to 'expect' a gift anyway, and there could be many reasons why a smaller amount has been spent.
If in doubt, consider this ~ what would people like your cousin think if they heard your brother and his wife make these comments? Would they be glad they went to the trouble of giving a gift? Would they feel they should give another?
Being grasping in this way is just as bad as being a cheapskate. Worse perhaps, because our ability to give more or less varies over time, but a mean nature rarely changes.
Best wishes to you :-)
Reply:Well, you say that they complained to their immediate family and everyone is entitled to release their frustration. I wouldnt say that they were rude because they just complained to you.
I am assuming they sent thank you cards to everyone...
I wouldnt call them rude, if they know the person can afford to give you more. Wedding is once in a life time event and is very special and personal, one would feel hurt and dissapointed if he or she receives less than what they deserve. We, for example, got $5 from someone and felt really embarassed. Its almost like " do you really think that we are worth to you only 5$?" there were some people who came to our wedding without gifts (they were financially broke) but they sang a song or played a music for us - that made us happy, not dissapointed.
Reply:their spolied ungrateful brats. i gove according to my means. be it a bag of farm fresh pistachios or some gifts cards to a resutant or shop. sometimes i find nice things used and re-pack them. and i tell the truth where i got it from and im not embarrased. if they dont like it, then up theirs! yay!
Reply:ungrateful. There lucky people even went and better yet gave a gift.
They basically made note of what everyone gave (for thank you cards).
Since then, they have been talking to us (immediate family: me, my sis, dad, mom, etc.) and complaining about supposedly "cheap people" who didn't give them a gift or who gave only $50, (our cousin, for example) etc.
What do you think about that? Is that kind of behavior normal, acceptable and generally expected, or is that totally ridiculous and rude? Something in between?
Thanks!
What do you think about people counting and complaining about their wedding gifts?
Totally ridiculous and rude. This is extremely uncouth behavior, and if they want to discuss this, they should keep it to themselves.
While it is customary for an invited guest to give a gift, it is by no means obligatory. There are some commonly accepted etiquette guidelines for gift giving, but that is another topic.
Reply:Whoa, this is exactly what my sis-in-law and brother did. She complained about how cheap some friends are and how they should be giving more because they are rich. Rich or not, they have no right to complain especially to anymone other than between themselves. I found it very off-putting. Report It
Reply:I think it is totally sad. When me and my fella got married, we didn't do a gift list at all. In fact, the best gift folks could bestow upon us was their presence on our special day and their happiest wishes for our future together!
Reply:I think that they are very ungrateful. WOW did they at least send a thank you note to EVERYONE that got them a gift? Materialism is the word that comes to mind.
Reply:That is just rude unacceptable behavior. I think they are being ungreatful. They are not appreciating what they got. At least they should be glad that they got something and people at their wedding.
Reply:I think it is ridiculous and rude. It is not the guests' choice of whether or not the wedding would be expensive. When I was planning for my wedding I knew that I couldn't depend on the gifts from the guests to help pay off the wedding. I accepted whatever they gave to me with no complain whatsoever. The guests took the time from their daily schedule to attend the wedding. They also took the time to pick the gifts. $50.00 is a good amount to me.
Reply:That is terrible.
Reply:The gifts ANY couple receive should be a private matter-not discussed with anybody else. And further more, when did a wedding invitation specify that $xxxx should be spent on a gift? Shouldn't a gift be given out of someone's heart and not of what's in your pocketbook? Obligation to give me a gift so yo ucan witness my day?
I was quite thankful for the friends %26amp; family who shared our day with us. That was gift enough for us! We received an array of gifts and monetary gifts that fit the budgets of our guests-but that was a secondary issue! In fact, it took us 3 days to get around to opening envelopes. We had family in town and it was more important to spend the few days with them.
I agree that someone said that weddings are getting ridiculous lately. It always seems to be a 'one ups-manship' on who gets bigger or better gifts. Shame on your brother and his wife. I hope you told them how rude they were being. They don;t deserve anything!
Reply:They should be taken out back and shot.
Reply:Edited to add: Yes, they have a point about the standard protocol for wedding gifts ~ if someone says 'how much should I spend' the standard answer is 'the cost of your meal (usually about $50)'. BUT, that is for people who wish to follow the protocol and who can afford to do so ... It still remains that a gift is a gift, and sometimes it takes generosity to receive as well as to give :-)
~*~*~*~
Weddings are getting so out of hand. People spend such huge amounts on the wedding, and then feel cheated if their guests don't come up with a gift which is expensive enough to impress them.
I'm sorry, in my own view, your brother and his wife are being very rude and inconsiderate.
Did they get married for their future or for the gifts?
While it is true that some people are cheapskates when it comes to giving, so what? No-one has the right to 'expect' a gift anyway, and there could be many reasons why a smaller amount has been spent.
If in doubt, consider this ~ what would people like your cousin think if they heard your brother and his wife make these comments? Would they be glad they went to the trouble of giving a gift? Would they feel they should give another?
Being grasping in this way is just as bad as being a cheapskate. Worse perhaps, because our ability to give more or less varies over time, but a mean nature rarely changes.
Best wishes to you :-)
Reply:Well, you say that they complained to their immediate family and everyone is entitled to release their frustration. I wouldnt say that they were rude because they just complained to you.
I am assuming they sent thank you cards to everyone...
I wouldnt call them rude, if they know the person can afford to give you more. Wedding is once in a life time event and is very special and personal, one would feel hurt and dissapointed if he or she receives less than what they deserve. We, for example, got $5 from someone and felt really embarassed. Its almost like " do you really think that we are worth to you only 5$?" there were some people who came to our wedding without gifts (they were financially broke) but they sang a song or played a music for us - that made us happy, not dissapointed.
Reply:their spolied ungrateful brats. i gove according to my means. be it a bag of farm fresh pistachios or some gifts cards to a resutant or shop. sometimes i find nice things used and re-pack them. and i tell the truth where i got it from and im not embarrased. if they dont like it, then up theirs! yay!
Reply:ungrateful. There lucky people even went and better yet gave a gift.
Is there a great website to buy personalized gifts that nobody ever thinks of buying for somebody?
This year for xmas I want to buy personalized gifts for all my in-laws and family.I want to buy something personal that will make their hearts melt any suggestions or websites to look on.
Is there a great website to buy personalized gifts that nobody ever thinks of buying for somebody?
If you go to
www.gift.com
or
www.surprise.com
They have alot of unique gifts on there that I haven't seen before. Also you can shop by the age, gender and personality of who you are buying the gift for.
Pretty cool, check it out! :)
Reply:beeni baggy chairs with there names on them
Reply:http://www.stuff-n-morestuff.com/
This site has alot of good things to buy from. Alot of items and more coming!!!
Take a visit!!!
Reply:go to lilian vernon.com
Reply:Thingsremembered.com
Reply:Try this website, your family will love this. I only have their wedding page marked, but you can go from there.
http://www.chimesofyourlife.com/Weddingw...
This company sells personalized wind chimes. They will engrave anything you would like, and if you can not think of something, they have an inscription page with examples.
They have all different wind sail shapes, chime sizes and colors, could fit anyone. My mother loved hers for her birthday, I got her a heart wind sail shape.
Reply:As it happens I sell high quality personalized blankets and gift wares. The blankets have a photo actually woven into the fabric. It comes in color and black/white. I also offer coffee mugs, car seat covers, mouse pads, and other items. If interested let me know. Thanks
leather sandals
Is there a great website to buy personalized gifts that nobody ever thinks of buying for somebody?
If you go to
www.gift.com
or
www.surprise.com
They have alot of unique gifts on there that I haven't seen before. Also you can shop by the age, gender and personality of who you are buying the gift for.
Pretty cool, check it out! :)
Reply:beeni baggy chairs with there names on them
Reply:http://www.stuff-n-morestuff.com/
This site has alot of good things to buy from. Alot of items and more coming!!!
Take a visit!!!
Reply:go to lilian vernon.com
Reply:Thingsremembered.com
Reply:Try this website, your family will love this. I only have their wedding page marked, but you can go from there.
http://www.chimesofyourlife.com/Weddingw...
This company sells personalized wind chimes. They will engrave anything you would like, and if you can not think of something, they have an inscription page with examples.
They have all different wind sail shapes, chime sizes and colors, could fit anyone. My mother loved hers for her birthday, I got her a heart wind sail shape.
Reply:As it happens I sell high quality personalized blankets and gift wares. The blankets have a photo actually woven into the fabric. It comes in color and black/white. I also offer coffee mugs, car seat covers, mouse pads, and other items. If interested let me know. Thanks
leather sandals
What books do you like to give as gifts?
What books have you (or would you) give as gifts to someone? I am interested in a whole range of answers, books for men, for women, for children.
What books do you like to give as gifts?
For a man: All the Ways Men Are Smarter Than Women
by: Mark Brite
For a woman: The Fashion Book by: Editors of Phaidon Press
For a teenager: Acne For Dummies by: Herbert P. Goodheart
For a child: The Very Hungry Caterpillar by: Eric Carle
Reply:I like to give my favourite books to friends, like Twilight or Harry Potter, or Dr Seuss to little kids :). Books on sailing, planes, dirtbikes, and other boy toys are great for men like my dad, maybe cook books for moms, or romance novels lol. Colouring books are always good for kids, and magazines are great for anyone.
Chiken Soup for the Soul books are perfect for anyone if you get the right topic.
Reply:I have given my niece and nephew hundreds of books. She is currently 6 and he is 5.
Books about: Great art and great artists, Great composers, Invertebrate animals, fish, amphibians, reptiles, birds, mammals, maps, dinosaurs, ALL of the Dr. Seuss books, Thomas the Tank Engine, Angelina Ballerina, Junie B. Jones, Cinderella, Snow White, Winnie the Pooh, Wind in the Willows, Frog and Toad, Nate the Great Detective, all of Jan Brett's books, all of Eric Carle's books, Amelia Bedelia books, Curious George books, Cordouroy series, etc.
This year they will be getting books about ALL of the holidays and their meanings. They will also begin a study of US History and Geography from the Explorers through the Lewis and Clark Expedition including the first 18 states with books or printouts from the internet to explain the significance of the design for each state's quarter.
This is just a small sample of what I have given them. I have a website where I list the books they have received or will receive as they get older.
Reply:I have some friends who don't read chapter books. They only like short stories. So, I get them books like those Chicken Soup for the ______ Soul ones, books on Animal/People Miracles, or ghost stories, haunted locations, etc.
The others that do read chapter ones I usually just get a gift card as I don't know what books they have or have not read.
I got my friend's little girl (age 10) the 12 or so paperbacks of the Redwall series. I sent a few of the American Girl books over to Taiwan to my penpals daughter who is learning English.
My friend's husband was in the service. I get him books on Navy battles, WWII, Civil War - history type of books.
Reply:A couple of books I've been giving the past couple of years has been PLATO AND A PLATYPUS WALK INTO A BAR and ARISTOTLE AND THE AARDVARK GO TO WASHINGTON, to adults...
To young adults I have given THE ONE-MINUTE PHILOSOPHER and to the very young I give books that match their reading level and what I know of their interests...
Reply:For women: any book by Nora Roberts or by Meschelle Kuhn
For Men: Stephen king or Dan Brown Books
For Teens: Twilight series, Maximum Ride, or any Cecily von Ziegesar books (her books are a bit explicit though)
For Children: Where the Red Fern Grows (my personal favorite), Harry Potter books, or Nancy Drew or Hardy Boys series!
Hope this helps! :)
Reply:i give coloring books lol :] it might sound stupid but coloring is very relaxing for every age group
Reply:I give people who are graduating high school or college the book Oh, the Places You'll Go! by Dr Seuss.
Reply:HARRY POTTER
TWILIGHT.....
WHERE THE RED FERN GROWS
THE YEARLING
BARNES %26amp; NOBLES GIFT CARDS ARE GOOD TOO:)
Reply:1984
What books do you like to give as gifts?
For a man: All the Ways Men Are Smarter Than Women
by: Mark Brite
For a woman: The Fashion Book by: Editors of Phaidon Press
For a teenager: Acne For Dummies by: Herbert P. Goodheart
For a child: The Very Hungry Caterpillar by: Eric Carle
Reply:I like to give my favourite books to friends, like Twilight or Harry Potter, or Dr Seuss to little kids :). Books on sailing, planes, dirtbikes, and other boy toys are great for men like my dad, maybe cook books for moms, or romance novels lol. Colouring books are always good for kids, and magazines are great for anyone.
Chiken Soup for the Soul books are perfect for anyone if you get the right topic.
Reply:I have given my niece and nephew hundreds of books. She is currently 6 and he is 5.
Books about: Great art and great artists, Great composers, Invertebrate animals, fish, amphibians, reptiles, birds, mammals, maps, dinosaurs, ALL of the Dr. Seuss books, Thomas the Tank Engine, Angelina Ballerina, Junie B. Jones, Cinderella, Snow White, Winnie the Pooh, Wind in the Willows, Frog and Toad, Nate the Great Detective, all of Jan Brett's books, all of Eric Carle's books, Amelia Bedelia books, Curious George books, Cordouroy series, etc.
This year they will be getting books about ALL of the holidays and their meanings. They will also begin a study of US History and Geography from the Explorers through the Lewis and Clark Expedition including the first 18 states with books or printouts from the internet to explain the significance of the design for each state's quarter.
This is just a small sample of what I have given them. I have a website where I list the books they have received or will receive as they get older.
Reply:I have some friends who don't read chapter books. They only like short stories. So, I get them books like those Chicken Soup for the ______ Soul ones, books on Animal/People Miracles, or ghost stories, haunted locations, etc.
The others that do read chapter ones I usually just get a gift card as I don't know what books they have or have not read.
I got my friend's little girl (age 10) the 12 or so paperbacks of the Redwall series. I sent a few of the American Girl books over to Taiwan to my penpals daughter who is learning English.
My friend's husband was in the service. I get him books on Navy battles, WWII, Civil War - history type of books.
Reply:A couple of books I've been giving the past couple of years has been PLATO AND A PLATYPUS WALK INTO A BAR and ARISTOTLE AND THE AARDVARK GO TO WASHINGTON, to adults...
To young adults I have given THE ONE-MINUTE PHILOSOPHER and to the very young I give books that match their reading level and what I know of their interests...
Reply:For women: any book by Nora Roberts or by Meschelle Kuhn
For Men: Stephen king or Dan Brown Books
For Teens: Twilight series, Maximum Ride, or any Cecily von Ziegesar books (her books are a bit explicit though)
For Children: Where the Red Fern Grows (my personal favorite), Harry Potter books, or Nancy Drew or Hardy Boys series!
Hope this helps! :)
Reply:i give coloring books lol :] it might sound stupid but coloring is very relaxing for every age group
Reply:I give people who are graduating high school or college the book Oh, the Places You'll Go! by Dr Seuss.
Reply:HARRY POTTER
TWILIGHT.....
WHERE THE RED FERN GROWS
THE YEARLING
BARNES %26amp; NOBLES GIFT CARDS ARE GOOD TOO:)
Reply:1984
What are some easy gifts to give to my friends?
I have a ton of friends and not a lot of money. I am trying to get some easy and not expensive gifts for them for Christmas this year. They are between the ages of 13 and 16 and it is very hard to shop for them. Does anyone know any ideas for some easy gifts to purchase or possibly make?
What are some easy gifts to give to my friends?
last year me and my sister had a BLAST making photo frames out of foam. and we put different pictures of ourselves in them. it was cheap and easy. kindof time consuming but it was so much fun!
you can buy flat foam mats for pretty cheap. then you can buy foam sticker letters and other foam stickers. also foam cutouts that are not stickers. just stick or glue them on and tadaa! cute frames that you could stick magnets to the back of the frames so they could be hung hang in your locker or on the refrigerator or tacked on a bulletin board.
Reply:that is easy. just write a handwritten letter thanking them for their friendship, and what u think of this friendship. cheers! economical and valuable!
Reply:I suppose this depends on whether or not these friends are girls, boys or mixed. For girls (I'm assuming it's only for girls or mostly, being that your name is "LindsayS"), why not just get buy one big bottle of bath salts and a smaller container of bath beeds.... get some of the clear plastic (plain or design) gift wrap and some ribbon and divide it up so they all have a little bath item... Shouldn't cost too much....you can probably find most of it at a dollar store!
The other thing, if you're creative... you could try just go to a craft store, buy some wick and some beeswax and make homemade candles (Believe me, I used to make candles with my mom all the time and that stuff is cheap) and then just look up online or soemthing how to make candles (specify beeswax).
Good luck!
Reply:print up a blank address, have each one put in there e-mail and personal information. Put it all together and give each one a copy. Beings life is so short and great friends are a must in this fast paced world. Lets all keep in touch.
Reply:Gift cards are good to give.
Reply:Most Dollar stores, or Big Lots type stores have boxes of candy/chocolate for very inexpensive prices. You can't go wrong with candy!
What are some easy gifts to give to my friends?
last year me and my sister had a BLAST making photo frames out of foam. and we put different pictures of ourselves in them. it was cheap and easy. kindof time consuming but it was so much fun!
you can buy flat foam mats for pretty cheap. then you can buy foam sticker letters and other foam stickers. also foam cutouts that are not stickers. just stick or glue them on and tadaa! cute frames that you could stick magnets to the back of the frames so they could be hung hang in your locker or on the refrigerator or tacked on a bulletin board.
Reply:that is easy. just write a handwritten letter thanking them for their friendship, and what u think of this friendship. cheers! economical and valuable!
Reply:I suppose this depends on whether or not these friends are girls, boys or mixed. For girls (I'm assuming it's only for girls or mostly, being that your name is "LindsayS"), why not just get buy one big bottle of bath salts and a smaller container of bath beeds.... get some of the clear plastic (plain or design) gift wrap and some ribbon and divide it up so they all have a little bath item... Shouldn't cost too much....you can probably find most of it at a dollar store!
The other thing, if you're creative... you could try just go to a craft store, buy some wick and some beeswax and make homemade candles (Believe me, I used to make candles with my mom all the time and that stuff is cheap) and then just look up online or soemthing how to make candles (specify beeswax).
Good luck!
Reply:print up a blank address, have each one put in there e-mail and personal information. Put it all together and give each one a copy. Beings life is so short and great friends are a must in this fast paced world. Lets all keep in touch.
Reply:Gift cards are good to give.
Reply:Most Dollar stores, or Big Lots type stores have boxes of candy/chocolate for very inexpensive prices. You can't go wrong with candy!
What's a good list of "favorite" questions to ask my daughter's teacher for parents to send gifts?
I am the room mom for my first grader and for my pre-k daughter. I want to make a list of "favorites" for their teachers to fill out and then send that list out to parents so they can send her gifts for Christmas if they like. What are good questions to ask her as favorites, such as, "What is your favorite store?" so that parents can send her gift cards to that store?
What's a good list of "favorite" questions to ask my daughter's teacher for parents to send gifts?
1. Favorite Store
2. Restaurant
3. Hobby
Another idea is to make a 'Wish List'.
The teacher lists things she needs for her classroom. You put them on a sheet of paper and each parent can tear off the sheet of paper with the name of the item that they will buy for her.
This way, the teacher doesn't get 12 of the same thing.
Reply:stores are good, food places, maybe one of the parents could bring her lunch one day, bookstore, hobbie
if she likes to craft maybe a basket of craft supplies... hmm
u dont want to get her knick knacks cuz they are just dust collectors,
maybe a scrapbook of the year so far, or a gift card to a teacher store. tahnk u cards with all signatures..
What's a good list of "favorite" questions to ask my daughter's teacher for parents to send gifts?
1. Favorite Store
2. Restaurant
3. Hobby
Another idea is to make a 'Wish List'.
The teacher lists things she needs for her classroom. You put them on a sheet of paper and each parent can tear off the sheet of paper with the name of the item that they will buy for her.
This way, the teacher doesn't get 12 of the same thing.
Reply:stores are good, food places, maybe one of the parents could bring her lunch one day, bookstore, hobbie
if she likes to craft maybe a basket of craft supplies... hmm
u dont want to get her knick knacks cuz they are just dust collectors,
maybe a scrapbook of the year so far, or a gift card to a teacher store. tahnk u cards with all signatures..
How to get free those free gifts?
Every time I see an offer for a free gifts they want you to fill out an offer for a credit card. Are they all scams? Are there any that you dont have to fill out an offer for a credit card?
How to get free those free gifts?
Yes, those are all scams. If you are looking for true free samples/gifts, try the company's official site. Dove, Pampers, and even Wal-Mart have legit free samples without any gimicks.
Reply:I know its a scam i've tried it and all it gets me is something free but they give offers in it which you can't refuse which you have to pay.
Reply:i looked into it, dont apply, dont try, youll end up ruining your credit score for a free "gift" which you might not even recieve, and even if you do it will take up to 3 months to get it. Not worth it!
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How to get free those free gifts?
Yes, those are all scams. If you are looking for true free samples/gifts, try the company's official site. Dove, Pampers, and even Wal-Mart have legit free samples without any gimicks.
Reply:I know its a scam i've tried it and all it gets me is something free but they give offers in it which you can't refuse which you have to pay.
Reply:i looked into it, dont apply, dont try, youll end up ruining your credit score for a free "gift" which you might not even recieve, and even if you do it will take up to 3 months to get it. Not worth it!
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Any ideas for Xmas or Bday gifts for young men ages 12-16 from their Aunt?
I'm looking for inexpensive gifts to give my nephews. I ususally buy from "Ten Thousand Villiages" or other international fair trading sources which do not exploit poor people in 3rd world countries.
I like to give my nephews %26amp; nieces unique gifts. They are from wealthy families and don't need things -- I am on a really tight budget and cannot afford to get them the type of gifts their other relatives give. I genuinely love them want to try to bless them with something meaningful or special as a token of love from me %26amp; my daughter.
The girls are easy, we buy bath or beauty items on sale then add handmade earings or a craft. But the guys? Any ideas, especially from teen boys, of gifts that touched them?
Any ideas for Xmas or Bday gifts for young men ages 12-16 from their Aunt?
Hi, how about giving them a religious pendant. Or maybe finding a leather crafter and having a belt designed just for them? Do you see them often? How about just some homemade baked goods and hide a few dollars in it.
Reply:go to cheap bargain stores and you'll usually find really cool stuff there. i dun have much money so i get my freinds really funky cool stuff from shops like that.
or if you feel thats too cheap then have like a hamper kinda thing where u chuck in something like lollies or chocolate then chuck in like a mini basketball and i little torchlight etc.
Reply:Gift card to Best Buy.
BTW, where would those poor people in the third world countries be without American $ pouring in?
Take a look at the dictators running the countries and then tell me whose fault it is.
Reply:how about a talking chess board? my daughter just turned 13 and rec'v one from her uncle - she loooooovvvvveeesss it!
You can play checkers or chess...against the "computer" or against another person. It actually teaches you how to play.
(got it at toys r us)
Reply:A gift card from the store where the purchase their music. All "tweens" and teenagers love music. You would never be able to pick out what they like. With a gift card, the can pick out their own.
Reply:Try store specializing in puzzles. They have all kinds, including rings that are locked together that you have to figure out how to separate. Or 3-D puzzles are challenging to put together. My son loved trying to "figure it out" the puzzles.
Reply:why don't u get them gift cards to a favorite store or a cd store or game spot. they are good for bdays or holidays
Reply:they are teen boys they prolly wont get one give that touhes them. just find out what they are into
Reply:Books, Kits, like model planes. If there's a puzzle store, look around in there for ideas.
Reply:Telescopes
Microscopes
Electric Train set
Metal detector to find lost coins. I can't think of the proper name.
Cell phone w/ pre-pay card
Reply:I give one of my nephew a coupon for a 2 night stay at my house. He looks forward to them (so i am told by his mom) Then when he turns them in (again with parnets approval) we do whatever he likes. Usual a night at my house he plays games or we watch a movie.
The oldest of the teens I ask him what kinda of gift with a limit amount of money he would like and have him make a list so that way I have a choice and he doesn't know what he is getting. The others kids get craft items i make, but this year they are getting a shoebox to color and inside craft stuff to create to their hearts content. Hope this helps .
Reply:sum kinda game system or cologne
Reply:I think you schoulsd buy them a special shirt or somthing that can't begotten somthing original and unique or make them a giftbasket with things they like.
Reply:I know how it is, I am on a tight budget and my nephews have plenty of money and all they want.
One year I got them penlights that made shapes in the dark. They were like $10. each. maybe even less.
Last year I got them each CD holders that had neon lights on them. They loved them.
Another year I got them key chains with a little flashlight on the end of it.
I like to give my nephews %26amp; nieces unique gifts. They are from wealthy families and don't need things -- I am on a really tight budget and cannot afford to get them the type of gifts their other relatives give. I genuinely love them want to try to bless them with something meaningful or special as a token of love from me %26amp; my daughter.
The girls are easy, we buy bath or beauty items on sale then add handmade earings or a craft. But the guys? Any ideas, especially from teen boys, of gifts that touched them?
Any ideas for Xmas or Bday gifts for young men ages 12-16 from their Aunt?
Hi, how about giving them a religious pendant. Or maybe finding a leather crafter and having a belt designed just for them? Do you see them often? How about just some homemade baked goods and hide a few dollars in it.
Reply:go to cheap bargain stores and you'll usually find really cool stuff there. i dun have much money so i get my freinds really funky cool stuff from shops like that.
or if you feel thats too cheap then have like a hamper kinda thing where u chuck in something like lollies or chocolate then chuck in like a mini basketball and i little torchlight etc.
Reply:Gift card to Best Buy.
BTW, where would those poor people in the third world countries be without American $ pouring in?
Take a look at the dictators running the countries and then tell me whose fault it is.
Reply:how about a talking chess board? my daughter just turned 13 and rec'v one from her uncle - she loooooovvvvveeesss it!
You can play checkers or chess...against the "computer" or against another person. It actually teaches you how to play.
(got it at toys r us)
Reply:A gift card from the store where the purchase their music. All "tweens" and teenagers love music. You would never be able to pick out what they like. With a gift card, the can pick out their own.
Reply:Try store specializing in puzzles. They have all kinds, including rings that are locked together that you have to figure out how to separate. Or 3-D puzzles are challenging to put together. My son loved trying to "figure it out" the puzzles.
Reply:why don't u get them gift cards to a favorite store or a cd store or game spot. they are good for bdays or holidays
Reply:they are teen boys they prolly wont get one give that touhes them. just find out what they are into
Reply:Books, Kits, like model planes. If there's a puzzle store, look around in there for ideas.
Reply:Telescopes
Microscopes
Electric Train set
Metal detector to find lost coins. I can't think of the proper name.
Cell phone w/ pre-pay card
Reply:I give one of my nephew a coupon for a 2 night stay at my house. He looks forward to them (so i am told by his mom) Then when he turns them in (again with parnets approval) we do whatever he likes. Usual a night at my house he plays games or we watch a movie.
The oldest of the teens I ask him what kinda of gift with a limit amount of money he would like and have him make a list so that way I have a choice and he doesn't know what he is getting. The others kids get craft items i make, but this year they are getting a shoebox to color and inside craft stuff to create to their hearts content. Hope this helps .
Reply:sum kinda game system or cologne
Reply:I think you schoulsd buy them a special shirt or somthing that can't begotten somthing original and unique or make them a giftbasket with things they like.
Reply:I know how it is, I am on a tight budget and my nephews have plenty of money and all they want.
One year I got them penlights that made shapes in the dark. They were like $10. each. maybe even less.
Last year I got them each CD holders that had neon lights on them. They loved them.
Another year I got them key chains with a little flashlight on the end of it.
Why do some people go crazy over buying gifts for others?
I have several friends (mostly girls, I'll admit) who think they have to buy stuff - numerous things, or fairly expensive things, for their boyfriends. Why do some people think gifts buy love? These particular friends' boyfriends do not NEED any of this stuff, and probably don't even appreciate the stuff that much. GIFTS DON'T BUY YOU MORE LOVE. When will people realize that?
Why do some people go crazy over buying gifts for others?
Because they want you to know - I can afford this, I have money, I am not a stinge, You are worth so much to me. I think people who buy expensive things that are unnessesary, designer labels, earth destroying cars, scream out "i am insecure"
Reply:I agree with you.
Gifts at christmas does not buy God. God is love!
Reply:LOL, My sis is like that. She did it b/c she wanted ppl to buy her nice things too. After a few years of seeing that most ppl dont care to give others gift, she has stopped buying for others. Unless its children.
Reply:gifts may not buy love, but they help show it. some people like to show the people they love how they feel by buying them presents, to constantly remind them they are loved. its not always a bad thing, but it can go wrong.
Why do some people go crazy over buying gifts for others?
Because they want you to know - I can afford this, I have money, I am not a stinge, You are worth so much to me. I think people who buy expensive things that are unnessesary, designer labels, earth destroying cars, scream out "i am insecure"
Reply:I agree with you.
Gifts at christmas does not buy God. God is love!
Reply:LOL, My sis is like that. She did it b/c she wanted ppl to buy her nice things too. After a few years of seeing that most ppl dont care to give others gift, she has stopped buying for others. Unless its children.
Reply:gifts may not buy love, but they help show it. some people like to show the people they love how they feel by buying them presents, to constantly remind them they are loved. its not always a bad thing, but it can go wrong.
Is ok to ask for money for the honeymoon instead of wedding gifts?
I am planning my 2nd wedding. My fiance' and I both have established households and already will have 2 of everything. We would really like to take a nice honeymoon and wondered about putting on the invitation (which I am making myself) that in lieu of gifts to contribute to the honeymoon fund. Does that sound too tacky? Any other suggestions on how to word it?
Thanks,
Is ok to ask for money for the honeymoon instead of wedding gifts?
No, I'm afraid not. You can have your mom or family members subtly hint to guests that money is your preference, but by inviting people to your wedding, you're inviting them to share in your happiness in whatever way they want, which means they can give whatever gift they want. One way to help encourage money, though, is not to register at many places or for very many things. That way when they ask your family members about gifts, it gives them a chance to say, "well, what they really want is money for their honeymoon." You might be excited to know that many guests give money anyway. . . my husband and I got over $3,000 in cash that we took on our honeymoon.
Reply:You asked a question and didn't like the answers, next time you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question Report It
Reply:NO, of course it is NOT okay to ask for money for the honeymoon, or for anything else! You and your bf have to budget for the honeymoon yourselves, if you can't afford where you want to go, you change your plans, or just don't go right after the wedding. It is surely NOT the guests' responsibility to pay for that for you, nor should you even think of asking such a thing!!!
Especially with a second wedding....
Guests are not required to get a wedding gift, however most do. They would get something they choose, that they deem suitable for the couple. It's not their 'fault' that the two of you have established households already -- usually the reason for shower and wedding gifts is to help the couple get started in their new home together. Either you just graciously accept whatever people will chose to get for you, or you could always politely state "No gifts, please." - NOT be selfish and greedy and ask for money instead.
Reply:That is tacky and rude. You should NOT mention gifts in your invitation at all.
Gift suggestions of any kind should be spread by word of mouth only.
Reply:No it's not okay. You can do this with say immediate family but not anyone else.
Reply:Very tacky. Im getting married in July (2nd marriage for both of us too) and though I couldnt agree with you more (it is what we want to) To imply that a gift is expected cash or otherwise is in bad form no matter what # wedding your on.
Reply:I'm not Dear Abby or anything but I'm telling you that is very tacky. I would be insulted if I received an invitation like that.
First of all if you are invited to a wedding you are under no obligation to bring anything at all. But if you are bringing a gift it is inappropriate for you to request of your guests to bring cash only.
Reply:you can have your second wedding as big as you want. dont listen to that other person. It is tacky to ask for monetary gifts only but if your invitations dont have a registry assignment attached to it your guests wont have any other choice but to give you money. have a big beautiful wedding. I hope your big day is wonderful as is your honeymoon.
Reply:Tacky, tacky, tacky! Begging for money is NEVER okay! You're not supposed to ask for gifts at all, let alone tell them you want money instead.
Nobody has to buy a gift, especially for a 2nd wedding. If they choose to, say thank you, graciously, no matter what the gift might be.
If you told me to give you money, I'd either give you a toaster or some towels, or would not even attend, and forget any gift I might have been considering.
Reply:Wedding guests are offended and insulted when a Bride and Groom put that type of information on a wedding invitation, it is inappropriate and does not belong there.
Consider a "honeymoon" registry which is similiar to a gift registry or gift list. Have your parents and wedding party members pass that information "by word of mouth" to the invited guests.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Reply:One never, ever mentions gifts in a wedding invitation. The reason is that gifts are optional. Yes, pretty much everyone will want to give you something, but they are not obliged to give you anything. Yes, you'd like to get what you'd like to get, but you are not allowed to dictate what form the gift will take.
The one thing you can do is pass the word to everyone in the wedding party and both immediate families that you'd prefer monetary gifts. Then people can ask whoever they know best among the families or wedding party and get the word from them. Anyone who consults with those in the know will be given the word on what you'd like. Anyone who doesn't consult them will be deciding completely on their own.
No matter what you ask for, there will always be someone who doesn't follow the register or send the hoped-for check. Yes, you must be gracious about whatever is given you. It's a gift. It's a tangible expression of love and support. Accept it with a smile and sincere expression of gratitude.
Reply:That is tacky, you shouldn't be having a big 2nd wedding, it should be small and private, with no gifts. sell his stuff and go on your honeymoon with that.
Reply:YES! Any mention of gifts on the invitation period is tacky. It is even more offensive when you are dictating what type of gift your guests are "allowed" to give you. Gifts are optional. It makes it look like a gift is required for their prescence.
Information about where you are registered or prefrences like wanted cash for a honeymoon instead of boxed gifts should only be spread through word of mouth. Period. You can tell your parents and members of the bridal party and when somebody asks what to get you or where you are registered thats when they are told you would prefer money for a honeymoon.
For later posters who I know will say "but so and so did it and they had the cutest poem!". I see people pick their noses in public too. Does that make it any less disgusting and mean we should all start doing it?
Reply:Absolutely do not put wording on your invitation-as practical as it is, people will consider this very tacky. Here is what you do-tell everyone verbally about this website-
www.honeyfund.com. This site allows your guests to contribute to your honeymoon. Tell your family and friends that this is where you are registered, and they will be happy to contribute.
Reply:You can sign up for travel registries online or at some travel agencies.
Reply:It is ALWAYS tacky to ask for money, even more so on the invitation! People always ask friends and family of the bride and groom where they are registered, so make a honeymoon registry instead and have your friends and family spread the word. Regardless, you will still get some gifts, some people just don't follow registries, but that'll at least help.
Reply:Tacky to say :toward hoenymoon fund" but asking for money is acceptable. Ive been to several weddings where the couple was moving out of town so it was just not practical to give gifts. The wording they used was something like "You're presence is the greatest gift we could ask for but if you choose to bring along a small gift, special circumstances allow for....."
Reply:Hi, My Fiancee and I are doing the same thing this summer and is what I did for the invitations is just include a seperate piece of paper stating the address and explaining the details and also a little paragraph explaining that we are having a wishing well wedding. I found my little paragraph online. just type in "wishing well wedding verse" you will be able to find one that suits you. Some are really quite cute. Congratulations to you both! All the best to you and yours.
Thanks,
Is ok to ask for money for the honeymoon instead of wedding gifts?
No, I'm afraid not. You can have your mom or family members subtly hint to guests that money is your preference, but by inviting people to your wedding, you're inviting them to share in your happiness in whatever way they want, which means they can give whatever gift they want. One way to help encourage money, though, is not to register at many places or for very many things. That way when they ask your family members about gifts, it gives them a chance to say, "well, what they really want is money for their honeymoon." You might be excited to know that many guests give money anyway. . . my husband and I got over $3,000 in cash that we took on our honeymoon.
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Reply:NO, of course it is NOT okay to ask for money for the honeymoon, or for anything else! You and your bf have to budget for the honeymoon yourselves, if you can't afford where you want to go, you change your plans, or just don't go right after the wedding. It is surely NOT the guests' responsibility to pay for that for you, nor should you even think of asking such a thing!!!
Especially with a second wedding....
Guests are not required to get a wedding gift, however most do. They would get something they choose, that they deem suitable for the couple. It's not their 'fault' that the two of you have established households already -- usually the reason for shower and wedding gifts is to help the couple get started in their new home together. Either you just graciously accept whatever people will chose to get for you, or you could always politely state "No gifts, please." - NOT be selfish and greedy and ask for money instead.
Reply:That is tacky and rude. You should NOT mention gifts in your invitation at all.
Gift suggestions of any kind should be spread by word of mouth only.
Reply:No it's not okay. You can do this with say immediate family but not anyone else.
Reply:Very tacky. Im getting married in July (2nd marriage for both of us too) and though I couldnt agree with you more (it is what we want to) To imply that a gift is expected cash or otherwise is in bad form no matter what # wedding your on.
Reply:I'm not Dear Abby or anything but I'm telling you that is very tacky. I would be insulted if I received an invitation like that.
First of all if you are invited to a wedding you are under no obligation to bring anything at all. But if you are bringing a gift it is inappropriate for you to request of your guests to bring cash only.
Reply:you can have your second wedding as big as you want. dont listen to that other person. It is tacky to ask for monetary gifts only but if your invitations dont have a registry assignment attached to it your guests wont have any other choice but to give you money. have a big beautiful wedding. I hope your big day is wonderful as is your honeymoon.
Reply:Tacky, tacky, tacky! Begging for money is NEVER okay! You're not supposed to ask for gifts at all, let alone tell them you want money instead.
Nobody has to buy a gift, especially for a 2nd wedding. If they choose to, say thank you, graciously, no matter what the gift might be.
If you told me to give you money, I'd either give you a toaster or some towels, or would not even attend, and forget any gift I might have been considering.
Reply:Wedding guests are offended and insulted when a Bride and Groom put that type of information on a wedding invitation, it is inappropriate and does not belong there.
Consider a "honeymoon" registry which is similiar to a gift registry or gift list. Have your parents and wedding party members pass that information "by word of mouth" to the invited guests.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Reply:One never, ever mentions gifts in a wedding invitation. The reason is that gifts are optional. Yes, pretty much everyone will want to give you something, but they are not obliged to give you anything. Yes, you'd like to get what you'd like to get, but you are not allowed to dictate what form the gift will take.
The one thing you can do is pass the word to everyone in the wedding party and both immediate families that you'd prefer monetary gifts. Then people can ask whoever they know best among the families or wedding party and get the word from them. Anyone who consults with those in the know will be given the word on what you'd like. Anyone who doesn't consult them will be deciding completely on their own.
No matter what you ask for, there will always be someone who doesn't follow the register or send the hoped-for check. Yes, you must be gracious about whatever is given you. It's a gift. It's a tangible expression of love and support. Accept it with a smile and sincere expression of gratitude.
Reply:That is tacky, you shouldn't be having a big 2nd wedding, it should be small and private, with no gifts. sell his stuff and go on your honeymoon with that.
Reply:YES! Any mention of gifts on the invitation period is tacky. It is even more offensive when you are dictating what type of gift your guests are "allowed" to give you. Gifts are optional. It makes it look like a gift is required for their prescence.
Information about where you are registered or prefrences like wanted cash for a honeymoon instead of boxed gifts should only be spread through word of mouth. Period. You can tell your parents and members of the bridal party and when somebody asks what to get you or where you are registered thats when they are told you would prefer money for a honeymoon.
For later posters who I know will say "but so and so did it and they had the cutest poem!". I see people pick their noses in public too. Does that make it any less disgusting and mean we should all start doing it?
Reply:Absolutely do not put wording on your invitation-as practical as it is, people will consider this very tacky. Here is what you do-tell everyone verbally about this website-
www.honeyfund.com. This site allows your guests to contribute to your honeymoon. Tell your family and friends that this is where you are registered, and they will be happy to contribute.
Reply:You can sign up for travel registries online or at some travel agencies.
Reply:It is ALWAYS tacky to ask for money, even more so on the invitation! People always ask friends and family of the bride and groom where they are registered, so make a honeymoon registry instead and have your friends and family spread the word. Regardless, you will still get some gifts, some people just don't follow registries, but that'll at least help.
Reply:Tacky to say :toward hoenymoon fund" but asking for money is acceptable. Ive been to several weddings where the couple was moving out of town so it was just not practical to give gifts. The wording they used was something like "You're presence is the greatest gift we could ask for but if you choose to bring along a small gift, special circumstances allow for....."
Reply:Hi, My Fiancee and I are doing the same thing this summer and is what I did for the invitations is just include a seperate piece of paper stating the address and explaining the details and also a little paragraph explaining that we are having a wishing well wedding. I found my little paragraph online. just type in "wishing well wedding verse" you will be able to find one that suits you. Some are really quite cute. Congratulations to you both! All the best to you and yours.
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